Facing the Dark Posted February 6, 2009 Posted February 6, 2009 I took my ex girlfriends virginity and so she has a special place to me. Now thinking about her having sex with another guy is eating me alive. It's killing me and I want to cry and don't know what to do. How do you guys deal with those thoughts...
Ramrod Posted February 6, 2009 Posted February 6, 2009 Short answer: You learn to live with it and you move on.
Knight_Ctrl Posted February 6, 2009 Posted February 6, 2009 no good answer for that one man. Thats something that not even NC can fix. Those thoughts still bother the hell out of me, worse even is I was friends with the guy shes with now........**** I want that out of my head.
Author Facing the Dark Posted February 6, 2009 Author Posted February 6, 2009 Yeah man. There's no way to deal with it. I thought I'd marry her. She was so special and that act was so special and now it's nothing. It kills me when people tell me "all girls are sluts" because then I think about her being a slut and it makes me want to just die.
anne1707 Posted February 6, 2009 Posted February 6, 2009 She is not a slut because she sleeps with someone else. It's called moving on and it is what you need to do.
quankanne Posted February 7, 2009 Posted February 7, 2009 chalk it up to a learning experience: You were there for a particular time in her life, now it's time to move on. a couple of years ago, the guy who I had my very first sexual encounter with was going on and on about him being able to have a virgin, and what an honor it was ... then asked if I hadn't been lying to him! What a pendejo!
GoneButNotForgotten Posted February 7, 2009 Posted February 7, 2009 Once you are over her it won't make a lick of difference to you. It sucks now, but it just an excuse you are telling yourself. You basically just found a reason to hurt more. As much as it sucks, it happens. After a while you just remember the sex as a fond experience and nothing more. It is basically the same for every fond moment you shared with her. And actually very few girls are sluts. Or at least the ones in my life.
Justmike101 Posted February 7, 2009 Posted February 7, 2009 ur in the same situation as me. She was my first and I was her first. Listen carefully. If you feel jealous and hurt inside because she is sleeping with someone else, then you are nowhere near over her and you haven't accepted that you have broken up. You are broken up. She is as good as a stranger to you now. What she does is none of your business and neither does she have the right to know what you are up to. Cut it out it's not your concern. Easier said than done I know. But remember this, if you keep thinking about what she's doing or who she's with, it will eat you from the inside. DO NOT CHECK UP ON HER YOU WILL NEVER HEAL THAT WAY. You don't believe me? go check her myspace/facebook status or ask her friends how she's doing. If she is happy sexing the other guy, are you gonna be ok? If she isn't happy, will that make you feel better? Why? she's not yours. It's done dude. Stop caring what she does this instant. Train your mind and break the habit.
angelus Posted February 7, 2009 Posted February 7, 2009 dude seriously listen to JUSTMIKE101 he nailed it out of the park...he said pretty much what i was going to tell you. Virginity or not...who cares drop the dead weight. She is gone. She doesn't care about you anymore.....so why should you? She is out sleeping with other dudes. Its tough when you are someones first....but there is going to be plenty of more after you. That's just girls man. Hang in there man. Are you with anyone now? because if not..that can make you focus a lot on your ex. Go hang with your boys...they'll always be there for you.
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