stovepipe Posted February 6, 2009 Posted February 6, 2009 About a month and a half ago my ex broke up with me. I went through a lot of stress and all that good stuff. She wanted to remain friends. We work closely together and we were best friends before anything happened between us. About a week ago she had come over and we slept together. I made no mention of getting back togther...neither did she. We talked after that and everything was fine. Friends still. Now I know she's been dating other guys..she says she is not sleeping with any...she is not emotionally ready for that yet. So since she's dating I decide that I'm going to start as well. Superbowl Sunday I met a girl..we hit it off...my ex found out about this from a mutual friend at work, though my ex never said anything to me about it, made no mention of another girl. Later in the day I get an email saying that she needs to talk to me about something. I ask her what and she says that right now its not a big deal. When she knows for sure she'll tell me. First off....why even say something. I let it go for that day The next day we go out to lunch together...I ask her again what this is. She says she can't tell me right now. I basically get some info out of her. She's insinuating that its an STD and she may have gotten it from me. I know for a fact I was clean and I was tested before her. Someone else said they think its just some lie to keep me from being with anyone else. That if she knew she'd tell me, and the fact that she told me and said she has to wait for results is just a bunch of crap. I had to guess that it was an STD and even then she wouldn't confirm it. Later in the week she wanted to see me again....she cancelled on me and apologized up and down about it. I told her it was no big deal and I was going out with some other friends. Which I did. I went out with the other girl i was seeing. I went to her house and ended up leaving my wallet there. I said I couldn't go to lunch with her or my other friends that day. Our mutual friend asked why and I explained that I got knocked into a hottub fully clothed and left my wallet at her house. Needless to say she found out but again didn't say anything to me about this other girl..never asked anything....she stopped talking to me after she found out I guess. Said nothing. Didn't even look at me. Why is she like this. Is it the whole thing where she doesn't want to be with me but doesn't want anyone to be with me. Or is there a chance we could work things out. I want nothing more then to work things out but I'm also moving on. I can't continue to want someone that doesn't want me.
SRV Posted February 6, 2009 Posted February 6, 2009 First, would not take it lightly if someone called a bluff with matters regarding your health. You need to get tested for your own benefit and please use protection next time since your are not exclusive with her and do not know how many guys she is out boinking, better safe than sorry. Good luck!
angelus Posted February 7, 2009 Posted February 7, 2009 I have to agree with SRV....go get yourself checked out first man. Aside from the your dilemma...is so easy to see from my perspective. This girl doesn't want to be in a relationship with you at all. She is just jealous that you were hitting it off with another girl. Thats why she showed alot of attention to you after she found out about the other lady. She may have been a great friend to you before your relationship...but you had a relationship with her....which severely damages the friendship you had prior. You guys can't go back to being what you were before the relationship. She will forever be confronting you or punishing you for going with other girls. It doesn't matter if she goes with more guys than you do with girls. To me it seems she has some emotional issues...people who care and respect one another do not act like that to someone. Let her go man......see what that other girl is like and go with her if you are interested in her.
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