HHHHHEEELLLP Posted February 6, 2009 Posted February 6, 2009 Right, this is my story; My bf & I have been together for almost 4 yrs, we live together & are pretty much set to spend the rest of our lives together. The problem is...well i'm not EXACTLY sure what the problem is. Recently he's been working a lot of overtime, spending a lot of time with friends & i guess I've been feeling kind of lonely...there's a guy @ work who i guess i've been flirting with & enjoying the attention I get from him. I mean NOTHING would ever happen - he has a gf the same as I have my bf. It's just made me think about what else is out there...is the grass greener on the other side? I'm just so confused atm, please any opinions would be much appreciated i'm so torn inside. Thanx
SRV Posted February 6, 2009 Posted February 6, 2009 Why not fix and spend your energy on what you think is broken in your relationship instead of wondering if the grass is greener. Once you leave and you are on the other side of the fence, what most find out is that it is grass, and the color is green but just a different shade of green. At that point it is always too late.
MSUE Posted February 6, 2009 Posted February 6, 2009 sometimes it is and sometimes it isn't and btw just because you both have a SO doesn't mean "NOTHING will ever happen"...him not being home as often as he used to has made you think a lil too much about the grass being greener may indicate that there is an underlying issue...I have been in your spot and the marriage eventually ended...often times as the years pass passion vanishes for a lot of couples...do you really love your BF think about that...if the answer is yes then u may want to have a lil chat about maximizing the time u have together since it has decreased and also get the fire going again...
EmperorR Posted February 7, 2009 Posted February 7, 2009 Why not try telling your bf how you feel? He's working alot of overtime, in these times maybe he's working hard incase their are layoffs, maybe he's working hard like how I did to buy a nice big engagement ring. Why not tell him hey do you want to go ut for the weekend and just travel to another city or town nearby and spend the weekend, if he still doesn't change to your needs, then please don't cheat on him break it up with him. No offense, but I know this alot with people thinking their is "something else better out there", all relationships get kind of stale boring you eel lonely at a certain point, instead of trying to ditch it try fixing it first if you really care about him, trust me you know nothing about the guy at work all you see is the nice image he portrays at work.
Justmike101 Posted February 7, 2009 Posted February 7, 2009 Right, this is my story; My bf & I have been together for almost 4 yrs, we live together & are pretty much set to spend the rest of our lives together. The problem is...well i'm not EXACTLY sure what the problem is. Recently he's been working a lot of overtime, spending a lot of time with friends & i guess I've been feeling kind of lonely...there's a guy @ work who i guess i've been flirting with & enjoying the attention I get from him. I mean NOTHING would ever happen - he has a gf the same as I have my bf. It's just made me think about what else is out there...is the grass greener on the other side? I'm just so confused atm, please any opinions would be much appreciated i'm so torn inside. Thanx Wow @ some fkin women
angelus Posted February 7, 2009 Posted February 7, 2009 what the f? you are with someone for 4 years and you are flirting with another guy. C'mon lady. Don't do that to the poor guy...don't be one of those girls that we all can't stand on here...the guys here know them as their EXs. If you are flirting with someone else than it seems to me that you are seeking validation. The grass is greener is bullcrap.....if you are not happy or unfulfilled then get out of your relationship. Talk to your boyfriend....tell him how you are feeling. And please for the love of god....if you are going to cheat then break up with the guy first...at least he'll have a little more respect for you. Don't drag someone else through the mud on a f'in whim just because you got some attention from a guy that is with another girl..i.e. more unattainable. The solution to your problem is internal....only you know the answer to your question.
msjules Posted February 8, 2009 Posted February 8, 2009 What's interesting is that you are in a committed relationship with a guy for four years and plan to spend the rest of your life with him AND YET here you are in the breakup section of LS telling us your story.....hmmmmm....
Asami Posted February 8, 2009 Posted February 8, 2009 Why not try telling your bf how you feel? He's working alot of overtime, in these times maybe he's working hard incase their are layoffs, maybe he's working hard like how I did to buy a nice big engagement ring. Why not tell him hey do you want to go ut for the weekend and just travel to another city or town nearby and spend the weekend, if he still doesn't change to your needs, then please don't cheat on him break it up with him. No offense, but I know this alot with people thinking their is "something else better out there", all relationships get kind of stale boring you eel lonely at a certain point, instead of trying to ditch it try fixing it first if you really care about him, trust me you know nothing about the guy at work all you see is the nice image he portrays at work. emperor good point! I think you should just communicate with him and then try to work on it.
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