Author lovelylovely1 Posted February 7, 2009 Author Posted February 7, 2009 so I should just make a move then...
Lizzie60 Posted February 7, 2009 Posted February 7, 2009 I don't get it.. Are you paralysed? Why can't YOU make the first move? Why can't you make him know what YOU like.. what YOU want. why do women always wait for guys to make the first move, to ask them out, to pay for the date, to.. to.. to.. geezzz we're fighting for our liberation but most women are still 'waiting' for men to decide everything about THEIR life.. pathetic .. really.
MindoverMatter Posted February 7, 2009 Posted February 7, 2009 I am confused. How can you not make a move when you are in bed, making out (as has been defined earlier) and wanting to have sex? Are you very passive? Maybe he wants a more active partner in bed and doesn't want to do all the steps alone. Just go for it. Get him out of whatever he is still wearing, get out of whatever you are still wearing, and then go for the gold. You don't even have to talk about it, just do it. If he has issues, at the very least he'll mention them then. P.S. Come back and update.
sumdude Posted February 8, 2009 Posted February 8, 2009 Has he been through a breakup recently perhaps?
BentSpine Posted February 8, 2009 Posted February 8, 2009 YOU suggest that you both take off all your clothes. When your both nude ask him if he has a condom. This is a proven technique for straight guys who need strong signals.
Geraltt Posted February 8, 2009 Posted February 8, 2009 There's a whole element here that's being missed. It's possible that maybe he is waiting for STD results and doesn't want to do anything until he knows for sure.
Geishawhelk Posted February 8, 2009 Posted February 8, 2009 Wonderful! He's not gay - !! He's clean - !! He has a bulge in his pants - !! All systems Go!!! What are you waiting for, a gilt-edged invitation - ???
MindoverMatter Posted February 9, 2009 Posted February 9, 2009 Get nekked. Go for the gold. At the very least, close your eyes and think of england. But get it on, girl!
Treasa Posted February 9, 2009 Posted February 9, 2009 I still say maybe he's just not ready yet. Are you? If so, just let him know that you'd love it if you ravaged/ravished (I can never get it right) each other the next time to get together. See what his reaction is.
Scottdmw Posted February 16, 2009 Posted February 16, 2009 It certainly wouldn't hurt to simply talk to him about the subject and find out his views. That would be the best place to start in my book. You've gone far enough that it is certainly on the table for conversation. That said, I don't think there's anything wrong with wanting to sleep in the same bed and make out but not have sex. Maybe he's concerned about pregnancy? No birth control is 100%, maybe he considers a 1-10% per year risk of pregnancy to be a good reason to abstain. Maybe he draws the line there for religious reasons. Maybe he just wants to wait longer. Sometimes people will give you the impression that "no one waits anymore" but it's simply not true. I personally have in several relationships including my current one and know many other people who do also. Scott
You'reasian Posted February 16, 2009 Posted February 16, 2009 so I should just make a move then... Do it to it.
Oliveman Posted February 16, 2009 Posted February 16, 2009 I'm thinking small peepee too. But you should have some idea of what's down there by now. I only ever dated Catholic girls growing up, so kissing and petting inevitably led to sex, oral at the very least (for me of course), or maybe that's because I am very passionate, am almost always aroused by close contact and a complete degenerate. If ya'll have slept together 3 times and there's been no sex, he's either got a teenie-weenie or he's flat-out gay. Not that there's anything wrong with being gay. Haha I totally agree with this post and the part in bold describes me to a t. Normal guys who want to wait will say something by the time you're sleeping together with no sex three times and making out in bed together. The shy thing's totally ridiculous at this point. I say the two of you aren't compatible. Just move on and find someone who's not afraid of his innate sexual nature if you're too scared to make a move. Sometimes if we have a short coming, we need to seek out a partner who's strong in that point, not to complete you, but to complement you and make you a better couple as a whole. Obviously he's not the guy.
Chicago_Guy Posted February 16, 2009 Posted February 16, 2009 we've been seeing each other for about a month, a little over. I've stayed at his place 3 times now, each time we've shared a bed. We've made out, but there hasn't been anything more. I've been waiting for him to make a move. I also know that he's attracted to me. What should I do? If you're already sleeping in the same bed as him, why don't you make a move? I'm guessing that you're doing or saying something that makes him think you want to wait to do it.
Chicago_Guy Posted February 16, 2009 Posted February 16, 2009 I think you should wait for him to make a move. I think guys like to be the initiators. I know I like to be the one initiating affection. I disagree. I think it's awesome when a girl I've been seeing can't keep her hands off me!
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