lamar23 Posted February 6, 2009 Posted February 6, 2009 This was my first love and first relationship. I am 23 she is 4 years older than me. I did not make her feel as appreciated and I had to learn some things about relationships. Pretty much I was not experienced in them. She got fed up and left. Got into a new relationship like 2 weeks later. After that I did the no contact but I still anwered her calls. She told me yesterday that he changed from being super sweet at first to angry so they broke up. I did not ask her back because it just happened and I did not want her caught between the two when he tries to get her back. Anyone with experience on this please tell me what is best for me to do. Should I let him get her back or should I try to get her now? I'm confused and don't want to come off as desperate but I do still love her and want her back. Hope to get some responses soon.
Truly Lost Posted February 6, 2009 Posted February 6, 2009 You should leave her alone. If there is a chance for you two to work out it will happen. If you two get back together make sure you fix what caused your relationship to end the first time around. If you don't you will break up again for sure.
MSUE Posted February 6, 2009 Posted February 6, 2009 let it go...let her go...here's something I need to pint out...she made you feel as if the relationship didn't work cause of your mistakes...she's telling you it didn't work out with the guy she went with after you and it was his fault as well... Red flag...I see a pattern...don't bother getting her back...she's going to keep bouncing and blame the other party always for it not working out...you deserve better...don't you think?
SRV Posted February 6, 2009 Posted February 6, 2009 I will tell you what might be happening here. She was already looking for an exit from your relationship that is why she ended up with him 2 weeks later. She was already talking to this guy when she was still in a relationship with you. It did not work out with him that is why she is running back to you as a back-up. I would leave this one alone. She will come back if you happen to take her back and will do the same thing again, if not with this guy if they sort things out but with someone else. She already has one foot out the door, she is looking and once she finds the right one you will be history.
Author lamar23 Posted February 6, 2009 Author Posted February 6, 2009 I did fix the problems. I always learn from my mistakes. I'm a good man and some women actually appreciate that. She wasn't a bad gf but we both knew the relationship was dead before this happened. I know that I could have avoided this. I talked to her and told her that some of my feelings were comming back. Then I felt like that was a mistake. I can't let her know that but too late. I decided to quit talking to her for my heart's sake. I just can't take those feelings out of my heart. We been broke up for a month and a half and I still love her just as much. I guess it will just take time.
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