OCCDAVE Posted February 6, 2009 Posted February 6, 2009 Ok last night she texted me a few times and here is some of them. Hey um im sorry about everything that happened including how i hurt you and treated you.I gone through alot lately thats made me relize u loved me and i shouldnt have treated you like that way it was unfair and not nercessary This text confused me how do i take it cause she mentions u loved me yet no mention of her loving me (i asked her about it in a text bad move i know she said all she meant by it was she was sorry)? Her-you sure ur happy i want u to be happy Her- i hope all is well with you and u find love. me-likewise take care her-ill be fine life has been rough like falling in love with a guy who is still in love with his ex her-are you sure ur ok ur happy right i want u to be happy me-im happy i found someone(lie but she doesnt know) her-good i did as well we plan on moving in together in the summer her-are you sure ur happy u found love right i want that for you Shes been calling me private i know its her cause no one has this number i have except her and my family.So what do i make of her from what i can tell admitting she was wrong and asking if i was single.Like she says she has someone so does it really matter if i found love or not ?
Tryng2Trust08 Posted February 6, 2009 Posted February 6, 2009 It seems like games and childish to me....and Im sure you want more for yourself than that. It's time to move on, get your stuff and do NC. Yeah, she wants you to be happy and you want her 2 be happy, who wouldnt want that for someone they loved? Her texts are just games or trying to get you back. I know its hard to see her responsive to you now, but you need to figure out what you want for yourself and do it.
Author OCCDAVE Posted February 6, 2009 Author Posted February 6, 2009 It seems like games and childish to me....and Im sure you want more for yourself than that. It's time to move on, get your stuff and do NC. Yeah, she wants you to be happy and you want her 2 be happy, who wouldnt want that for someone they loved? Her texts are just games or trying to get you back. I know its hard to see her responsive to you now, but you need to figure out what you want for yourself and do it.Thing is if you noticed i never said i forgive you or anything in the convo.If your really sorry as you claim have the guts to call and not make it private cause you know im not gonna pick up ur call.Plus what had me confused like my last post said she posted on her myspace its been 2 months since i have hurt someone and i havnt been myself but i will fix things. Thats when she text me about her having a bad week i ignored her and she changed it to I really miss u i wish you would see that and not ignore me From what i can tell she does regret what she does right or she is trying to see if she has a backup plan
ColorCube Posted February 6, 2009 Posted February 6, 2009 Why are you texting with her?, Come on dude Stop it and treat her to NC, that is the only way you are going to heal and move on.
Tryng2Trust08 Posted February 6, 2009 Posted February 6, 2009 At this point..she may be looking for a friend...saying she had a bad week and shes trying to make herself feel better and shes maybe having some regrets about breaking things off. I think by her texts saying "I hope you're happy, etc..." she's looking for a response from you, maybe she wants you to tell her you miss her and you have been dying without her. The back and forth text messages aren't going to stop, unless you stop it, or maybe tell her you are ready to move on. I don't think you should lie saying you have someone else....that's not right.
northstar1 Posted February 6, 2009 Posted February 6, 2009 Ok last night she texted me a few times and here is some of them. Hey um im sorry about everything that happened including how i hurt you and treated you.I gone through alot lately thats made me relize u loved me and i shouldnt have treated you like that way it was unfair and not nercessary This text confused me how do i take it cause she mentions u loved me yet no mention of her loving me (i asked her about it in a text bad move i know she said all she meant by it was she was sorry)? Her-you sure ur happy i want u to be happy Her- i hope all is well with you and u find love. me-likewise take care her-ill be fine life has been rough like falling in love with a guy who is still in love with his ex her-are you sure ur ok ur happy right i want u to be happy me-im happy i found someone(lie but she doesnt know) her-good i did as well we plan on moving in together in the summer her-are you sure ur happy u found love right i want that for you Shes been calling me private i know its her cause no one has this number i have except her and my family.So what do i make of her from what i can tell admitting she was wrong and asking if i was single.Like she says she has someone so does it really matter if i found love or not ? Dude, what good is this doing you? As another poster said, it's childish games. Texting, quite honestly, is a lame way to communicate seriously with anyone, especially an ex. Go NC and leave this in the past.
Author OCCDAVE Posted February 6, 2009 Author Posted February 6, 2009 At this point..she may be looking for a friend...saying she had a bad week and shes trying to make herself feel better and shes maybe having some regrets about breaking things off. I think by her texts saying "I hope you're happy, etc..." she's looking for a response from you, maybe she wants you to tell her you miss her and you have been dying without her. The back and forth text messages aren't going to stop, unless you stop it, or maybe tell her you are ready to move on. I don't think you should lie saying you have someone else....that's not right.It's not right i wont lie but i sorta said it to make her jealous i want her to think i have moved on with my life and if im still single chances are im not.I know i should have ignored her but as you can see i didnt say i miss her or anything i kept the convo basic for the most part.I wont lie sure i miss her but the hurt she put me through i cant and will not go back to.If nothing else i wanna thanks ls since posting her i have changed alot from my old ways.The old me would have been oh wats wrong wanna talk about it and so on and continue being a doormat.Plus ya ur having a bad week and regreting what you did u think the last 3 months have been a walk in the park for me ugh She has texted me first both nights color im not the one who started the convo.Plus after she asked for the like 5 time am i sure im happy i went to bed cause she made my head hurt so back to nc till monday when i gotta get my stuff.
Author OCCDAVE Posted February 6, 2009 Author Posted February 6, 2009 Dude, what good is this doing you? As another poster said, it's childish games. Texting, quite honestly, is a lame way to communicate seriously with anyone, especially an ex. Go NC and leave this in the past.I was doing nc dude its been 2 months only reason i didnt tell her to go to hell is i need my stuff plus im more mature then she is.
ColorCube Posted February 6, 2009 Posted February 6, 2009 When I get spam in my email I delete it When I get a call from a telemarketer I hang up on them. Just because she text messages you doesn't mean you respond, when you do YOU break NC. You are just dragging getting your stuff out so you can keep up this light contact stuff, right? What stuff of yours does she have?
Author OCCDAVE Posted February 6, 2009 Author Posted February 6, 2009 When I get spam in my email I delete it When I get a call from a telemarketer I hang up on them. Just because she text messages you doesn't mean you respond, when you do YOU break NC. You are just dragging getting your stuff out so you can keep up this light contact stuff, right? What stuff of yours does she have?To be honest shes been stalling not me plus i dont have a ride over there most times so times i have had one shes not home or so called busy.I told her monday no excuses i will have my stuff plus i thought it wasnt breaking nc since im on the subject about my stuff. As for what she has from what i can remember PS3 Laptop nintendo wii xbox 360 digi camera few sports jerseys few jeans 2 pairs of shoes blue tooth hs phone that cost me 400 dress shirts tons of games I may be forgetting stuff as u can see i wont and cant just leave my stuff there thats why i didnt tell her screw off .
ColorCube Posted February 6, 2009 Posted February 6, 2009 You need to have her put those things in a box and have them put out for you to pick up. Just go get your stuff and end this back and forth. she said she has a new BF so it's time to move on.
Knight_Ctrl Posted February 6, 2009 Posted February 6, 2009 video games dude, go get em. ****s my life blood lol. Anyway yeah this texting needs to stop. NOW. You need to go down, get your stuff and leave forever. If you dont want to I'll go down tell her "occdave sends his reguards....bitch" and bring you your stuff. Dont make knight_ctrl act a fool.
ColorCube Posted February 6, 2009 Posted February 6, 2009 plus i thought it wasnt breaking nc since im on the subject about my stuff. Where do you mention your stuff in this exchange? Her-you sure ur happy i want u to be happy Her- i hope all is well with you and u find love. me-likewise take care her-ill be fine life has been rough like falling in love with a guy who is still in love with his ex her-are you sure ur ok ur happy right i want u to be happy me-im happy i found someone(lie but she doesnt know) her-good i did as well we plan on moving in together in the summer her-are you sure ur happy u found love right i want that for you I get the part where you are trying to get your stuff and move on but you really need to do it. Heck the amount of stuff in dollars is quite large, I certainly wouldn't let it go
Author OCCDAVE Posted February 6, 2009 Author Posted February 6, 2009 Where do you mention your stuff in this exchange? I get the part where you are trying to get your stuff and move on but you really need to do it. Heck the amount of stuff in dollars is quite large, I certainly wouldn't let it goI forgot to mention the parts i mentioned getting my stuff back just wanted to know what the rest of the convo meant.I will get my stuff monday and if she trys making me pity her ill just act cold as she did and walk away.
SRV Posted February 6, 2009 Posted February 6, 2009 Do you want her back? If yes, then unless she clearly spells it out it does not mean jack. She is trying to relieve herself of the guilt of what she did to you. Forget her, get yourself a woman that is worthy and appreciative of you and your time and kind nature. You need to ignore her, unless she is giving you specifics on when to pick up your stuff, you need to ignore her totally. She is throwing you breadcrumbs and stringing you along because she knows that she can and you are allowing her to do it to you.
angelus Posted February 7, 2009 Posted February 7, 2009 dude...just get your stuff back...seems like you have some expensive stuff that she still has. she is playing games with you....seeing if she has you on a string. This girl needs constant validation from others. You do not want to be with someone like this.....trust me. Because you don't matter to her enough for her to be with you. These girls know what they are doing and they are very good at manipulation. Just ask her if she can box all your stuff up and leave it somewhere for you...or if you have to meet face to face. Be respectful....in this case. Be the better man. If she tries to talk with you about the relationship or any of your personal business. Say...I'd rather not talk about anything..I would just like my stuff back. make the visit as short as possible. Then let her go and find a great girl who really cares about you and doesn't mess with your head.
Author OCCDAVE Posted February 7, 2009 Author Posted February 7, 2009 dude...just get your stuff back...seems like you have some expensive stuff that she still has. she is playing games with you....seeing if she has you on a string. This girl needs constant validation from others. You do not want to be with someone like this.....trust me. Because you don't matter to her enough for her to be with you. These girls know what they are doing and they are very good at manipulation. Just ask her if she can box all your stuff up and leave it somewhere for you...or if you have to meet face to face. Be respectful....in this case. Be the better man. If she tries to talk with you about the relationship or any of your personal business. Say...I'd rather not talk about anything..I would just like my stuff back. make the visit as short as possible. Then let her go and find a great girl who really cares about you and doesn't mess with your head.Tell me about it dude and i wont lie the old me would take her back but like i said since coming to this forum its opened my eyes to alot.I remember one post saying the process a dumper goes through before dropping the its over bomb on someone.Post like that helped me to open up and see things i was to blind to look at.I cant take her back shes already shown when things get tough she bails to explore options no thanks i need a girl who will stick with me through those tough times.She text me again today Come monday after 10 and my boyfriend will be here I ignored her i could care less just to be safe ill have a cop there cause im not looking to start problems.I just wanna get my stuff and close the case on this witch.
angelus Posted February 7, 2009 Posted February 7, 2009 good for you man....i'm really glad i could help out but actually YOU are the one helping you out. You will not regret it, i promise you. Get out there and find a good girl. With the next girl.....make sure she has something more to offer you than just her looks, make sure YOU like her. Good Luck Bro.
Author OCCDAVE Posted February 7, 2009 Author Posted February 7, 2009 Ugh she text me again last night saying hey are you still up I don't see why she keeps texting me if she's got a bf looks like she's lying
nature Posted February 7, 2009 Posted February 7, 2009 So what do i make of her from what i can tell admitting she was wrong and asking if i was single.Like she says she has someone so does it really matter if i found love or not ? She feels guilty. Time has caught up on her, and after a few months the guilt has gotten to her. And nobody likes living with a guilty conscience. That's why her little texts. Stop responding to her. You are relieving her guilt. Making it easier for her to move on. Next time she texts you, pick up the phone and call her. Tell her the truth. She shat on you and you feel like sh*t. You just want your stuff back and you've had enough of her little games. Stop the texting. And I'd tell her to stop it too. Texting is stupid and a false, cheap form of communication.
nature Posted February 7, 2009 Posted February 7, 2009 Plus...she's texting you right now because her boyfriend is in love with his ex girlfriend. So she's feeling insecure because of it. So she's trying to stroke her ego a bit by seeing if you are still her security blanket/doormat in the background.
Author OCCDAVE Posted February 8, 2009 Author Posted February 8, 2009 Tell me about it she's just trying to see if the old doormat me is back who won't care and take her in a second.like u said u have someone u claim to be happy then no need to bug me its cause the grass hasn't been green
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