globus Posted February 6, 2009 Posted February 6, 2009 Is it really worth trying to be a talkative person? When i go to clubs etc and talk to bartender girls, I dont get much to talk to and then the conversation stops after 10 minutes May be primarily because you don't know what to talk about or you dont have the sense as in what kind of conversations the other person would like to have Same thing happens over the phone when I talk to a girl who I have met once and when I call them back, there is nothing much to talk about Is it fine that some persons are like that? Any concerted effort can be made to become more interesting person or become more talkative (motive is to somehow involve the other person) Would it look fake if I try too hard to do conversations when I really dont know what I have to say What makes a person talkative? His own experiences, the books he read or some people are just like that? I have seen guys who can talk with girls for an hour and finally the content of the conversation would be not much...if you know what I mean Please give your comments
Geishawhelk Posted February 6, 2009 Posted February 6, 2009 A "good" type of talkative person will be worth listening to. A "bad" talkative type of person just fills the silence for something to say. it's all noise, and after a while, can be boring. A "good" type of non-talkative person will be quiet, but when they open their mouth it's because they're well-versed, intelligent, informed and capable of discussion. A "bad" type of non-talkative person will just sit there and not contribute because they're frankly boring and have nothing to input of any note. It's difficult to change the type you are, but if you're non-talkative, make sure that at least you know what you're not talking about....
fral945 Posted February 6, 2009 Posted February 6, 2009 As a naturally non-talkative person myself, here is some advice that I have found to help the vocally challenged. In conversation, I’ve learned to ask leading questions to women which allow them to talk about themselves. Most women I have dated love talking about themselves (their family, friends, hobbies, their favorite movies, TV shows, and music, etc.). I have found many times that allows conversation to flow well without you actually having to say much. If you find a particular topic that seems to spark her interest, delve deeper and ask more about that particular subject. Likely you will get more information than you need. Also you can try prodding for a common interest. If you find a mutual interest the conversation usually opens up more because even the quietest person enjoys talking about something he/she has in common with their date.
nana yaw II Posted February 14, 2009 Posted February 14, 2009 Be talkative, since non-talkative people suck royal.
johan Posted February 14, 2009 Posted February 14, 2009 Pick up Mr. T's book called Learn the Gift of Jibber Jabber, Fool!
pandagirl Posted February 15, 2009 Posted February 15, 2009 Being a good conversationalist has to do with listening more than talking. When you really listen, you can think of questions to ask. Be inquisitive, curious and observant. Even talking about what you had for lunch can be an interesting topic if you have an anecdote. Watch Seinfeld for some tips.
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