frostbitten Posted February 6, 2009 Posted February 6, 2009 just adressing the misunderstandings of my previous post ( which can be found at http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t178824/) upon arriving home , i read the flawed construction of my previous post, and can see how misleading it is; but it was mostly a product of haste and curiosity drafted on a phone. i was not trying to find dates through the internet. i was merely trying to get the general consensus on whether upscale , refined , educated gentlement were more appealing than others. the only factor i was using to measure appeal was money , intellect , and manners, and i meant for the rest to be kept at a fixed constant. yes, the person examplified is myself. but its just beyond me to depict my personality, and other factors r irrelevent to my intended question of whether upscaled....than others? You dont seem to be too confident, which is always a turn off... i know the question of one's attractiveness itself raises questions about their confidence. its my fault for the ill presentation. You seem to be using material things and looks to be the only thing that a woman would be attracted to. i acknowledge the fact that other factors play an equally or even more extensive role, but i kept them at a constant becos i'm only trying to find the weight material wealth and looks have. what spurred this capricious curiosity was my collegue telling me he had an easier time finding women in the financial district, where there were many who equalled his wealth and refinement, than in another neighborhood, where he is relatively ahead of them in those fields.
Tony T Posted February 6, 2009 Posted February 6, 2009 You need to give up on your quest to find out what attracts women. Some are drawn to men with lots of money, others are repulsed by men with lots of money. Some are drawn to GQ type physical attractiveness, others run from that. It all depends on the experience history and personality of the woman. You seem to be looking for some magic formula here. It would be my personal opinion that any woman looking over your post above and the one referenced to would not be interested in dating you at all. Move away from this, be yourself, cool your jets and calmly pursue the lady of your dreams and she will eventually appear in your life. Obsess over this kind of crap and it will never happen. Upscale, refined, educated men are very attractive to many women unless those men are also stuck on themselves, stingy, have body odor, are obsessed with making money and have no time for them, etc. It would be impossible for you to give us enough unbiased data to even begin to help you here. Godspeed!
AlektraClementine Posted February 6, 2009 Posted February 6, 2009 No, refined "gentlement" are not more appealing to me than any other guy out there. I'll take my scruffy, stinky, old boyfriend any day of the week who keeps beer at his apartment for me. I don't need cigars and cognac and definitely not alligators. Plus, it's cute as hell when I get to see my BF dress up every once in a while. He calls it his costume. FYI- I'm a prissy girl. If that paints a better picture.
xrhannyx Posted February 6, 2009 Posted February 6, 2009 I have to second that opinion it just genuinley depend son wht a girl is lukin for but u can gaurentee that in the end it all comes down to the man treating her like a woman...being proud of her and not just having something pretty on his arm...U could be the richest man around but if you couldnt make her feel like a princess...Through your words and your demina to her....not through buying her things etc etc then it wont work. It about how u make her feel in herself....and obviously how she makes u feel! If u are interested in her then dont try and buy her...try and SHOW her that she could be perfect for you. If you have monay and you have looks they may draw a girl in but at the end of the day they have to b a bonus because she will love you for YOU and not for ur money ..... the significance of money and looks (to most women) is just a mere conversation starter it is u as a person who will keep her talkin .. xxx
Tony T Posted February 6, 2009 Posted February 6, 2009 Here's a video that may cure you for all time. I'm posting it elsewhere so all who come to LoveShack may have the same benefit:
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