lostiinlove Posted February 6, 2009 Posted February 6, 2009 Well My boyfriend and I have been together since November. We havent had much time to spend together the first month because I was gone all of December. Well we talked everyday via phone/text/IM and he told me how much he likes me, falling for me, and all the things he wanted to do in the next few months, said we would spend as much time together as possible when I got back home. Things seemed to be going great. I liked him a lot and I thought things were going great even though we didnt spend too much time together, we talked everyday. Well I got home the day after Christmas and everything changed. He wasnt as sweet and caring as he was when I was away. Like when we are together he is nice and affectionate and he treats me good. But the thing is we rarely ever spend any time together. I brought it up to him a couple weeks ago and we ended up getting into an argument about it and he says that he is too tired after work to spend time with me ..but the thing is he is on a pool league and he plays pool with his buddys after work (Tuesdays & Thursday nights) sometimes till 1am. He works Monday-Friday 8am-6pm, occasional Saturdays. We only spend Friday night together and hes supposedly too busy the rest of the weekend. We usually communicate through text and he never texts or calls me and when I send him a text he doesnt reply till right before he is going to bed, or sometimes doesnt reply at all. I feel so hurt. I know he has the ability to be a good boyfriend but either he's not ready for commitment or he's just not interested in me. Another thing is that he is a shy guy so he doesnt open up much. He doesnt have much experience with dating and women, I am the first real relationship he has ever had. Also I am 24 and he is 35. I dont know if I should continue to try and make things work and try talk to him about things, or should I just end it? I would really like to try and make things work and have a talk with him but it's so frustrating I dont even know where to start and how to bring this all up to him without getting him angry.
messiah Posted February 6, 2009 Posted February 6, 2009 i can never understand how someone can date someone else 10 years their senior!
Author lostiinlove Posted February 6, 2009 Author Posted February 6, 2009 i can never understand how someone can date someone else 10 years their senior! Age doesnt really matter to me. My parents are 12 years apart and they have been married 30 years now.
Prodigal Princess Posted February 6, 2009 Posted February 6, 2009 i can never understand how someone can date someone else 10 years their senior! Men are about 10 years behind women in emotional intelligence anyway so really the age gap is perfect. To the OP - end it. He's "just not that into you".
MSUE Posted February 6, 2009 Posted February 6, 2009 seriously age who cares my parents are 10 years apart too and have been married for 50 + years. Pool is more important than you that's your red flag plus the lack of communication? not even a txt back right away? move on time to let him go
You'reasian Posted February 6, 2009 Posted February 6, 2009 What's his profession? I have buddies in the armed forces for instance whom literally have no time to communicate with their loved ones, pretty much until the time they hit the sack. Its a burden, but if they are really into their profession, its like none other.
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