laley0524 Posted February 5, 2009 Posted February 5, 2009 Hello all, Just got a divorce in december, two kids, still in love with know ex wife. I was not faithful and stop tending to her needs as a woman. I am just keeping it simple beacuse i have been looking and some of threads and read that many people are going through the same things that I am. I am sorry for all my mistakes and wish I can show my ex wife that I am going to tend to her needs as a husband, father, and over all person. I have been out of my house for over 6 months needless to say it has been the most difficult time in my life. I have commit adultery which I regret. Its time for me to fall back and let her go. I love her and want us to reconcile but all I keep read is that the only way for me to get her back is to let her go. I would love to hear from people how are having success at getting their loved ones back by using this game plan.
TrustInYourself Posted February 5, 2009 Posted February 5, 2009 Letting go doesn't get your wife back. Affairs do not happen to people who are happily married. There are issues to address on both sides. Have you communicated your desire to work on things with your wife?
Author laley0524 Posted February 6, 2009 Author Posted February 6, 2009 Yes i have and all she is saying is that its to late. She says she doesn't see a future with me. I still feels that she loves me but it may just me wishing this was the case. I miss her and also miss my children dearly. I get to see them but I have to go over to the house I use to live in. It breaks my heart when I go over there and then have to leave. I don't think I have been there once and didn't leave with tears in my eyes( once am in my car). I know i mess up on my family by committing adultery, the crazy thing is I never once thought of my family when being selfish, then again who does. Thank you for your reply.
Owl Posted February 6, 2009 Posted February 6, 2009 The majority of marriages destroyed by infidelity are uncrecoverable. The odds are high that your wife is right...the damage to her is too great for her to forgive. Given that, I'd suggest you focus less on hoping to somehow win her back, and more on your own personal issues that caused you to cheat in the first place.
troubadour Posted February 6, 2009 Posted February 6, 2009 Laley0524, it is still all about you. You are still being selfish. When you wanted your "little pleasures" on side, your cake, you didn't seem to care too much about your wife and your children. You wanted to indulge yourself and it was all what mattered to you. But now, since you were hit with divorce, alimony, and living on the curb... you want your cake again... except for this time it is your wife and your children. But make no mistake about it... it is all about you and your self-indulgence again. Sorry if I am too harsh but... you just want your cake again, Laley0524.
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