ashleigh422 Posted February 5, 2009 Posted February 5, 2009 Here is my story. I will make it short. I have been with my 3 year old’s dad for 4 years. He was emotionally abusive for most of our relationship. In November, I broke it off when he finally crossed the line, in my eyes. At the end of December, I made the decision to let him come back to MY home and give it another chance, as he said he had changed. Well, big shocker, things had not changes, they weren’t as bad, but still have potential to be bad once again.[ The past week I have decided once again that I deserve better and I need to make him leave, for me and my kids’ sake. BUT.. this last week, he has been sooo nice. No name calling or anything. I know and understand that he is now just a ticking time bomb, but I DON’T want to wait. It would be so much easier, to just sit around and wait for him to have another abusive episode, and then call the cops or have an easy reason to leave, but I don’t want to wait. I have tried for three nights in a row to tell him it’s over, in person, and he won’t accept it, he just smiles, giggles, tells me I don’t really want that and then continues being nice. At this point, how wrong would it be to send him an email and tell him, I am done. I have tried to do it in person but he won’t accept it. I am not going home until he is gone in his own apartment or house. I still have to talk to him since we have a child, but it is over. I don’t want to discuss it anymore with him, I have made up my mind. I do love him, but I want to be alone and on my own. Is that selfish since he is being “nice” for the time being.
Geishawhelk Posted February 5, 2009 Posted February 5, 2009 He's only treating you like this because you let him. He fluctuates between "Nice" and "not Nice" because you send him mixed signals of "go" and "Oh, OK, Come back". Make your mind up. Tell him point blank it's over, he's had his chances and unless he moves out now, he'll go out one day and return to find the locks changed and all his stuff on the doorstep. Say it - and mean it. Don't flim-flam. BTW, your post is really hard to read. If you're going to cut and paste preview first, to get rid of all the formatting. Just a tip. Edit Note: Oh. OK. Well done!!
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