hotgelato Posted February 5, 2009 Posted February 5, 2009 lately, i've been studying and hanging out alone at a busy starbucks cafe. 1) This guy who was sitting with a guy friend at a table said hi to me as I walked by the table with my drink. We had eye contact but I totally thought he confused me with someone else, because his hi was too friendly. I just smiled lightly and went to my table. He didn't come up to me later. 2) While I was waiting for my drink, this guy who was also with a guy friend, says hi. I just smile and busily find a table to sit, and then come back to get the drink. As I move about the store, he already got his drink and sat with his friend a little far away from me. He and I are facing each other and there were many eye contacts but he didn't come up to talk to me later. --- why are these guys saying hi? and how do you talk to them with a cool attitude? They were both really cute, and I see myself dating guys like them. HOwever, I think I was just in shock that it happened when I least expected it. UGHHHHH Advice please!! since I will be hanging out at starbucks LOT MORE! lol
Surfer Dude Posted February 5, 2009 Posted February 5, 2009 Starbucks is definitely one of the best and most popular approach venues. Many men have yielded extremely good results there, that's why so many continue to approach women in Starbucks and other coffee shops. I hope that explains it
kashmir Posted February 5, 2009 Posted February 5, 2009 They could just be friendly or they could like you. I personally don't really go out of my way and say hi to a girl I'm not attracted to. Be responsive to them and make sure to give a nice big smile back. It's sometimes hard to tell a girl that doesn't want to be bothered from a girl who wouldn't mind being approached. I've approached girls while they were studying and they ended up being really cold...one even told me right after I said "hi" to "leave me alone." I got smiles prior from most of these girls, too. So do what you can to look inviting.
wuggle Posted February 5, 2009 Posted February 5, 2009 Next time that happens and someone says "hello" in that friendly way how about "Hello, can you see two seats together" or "Hello, I'll be here for at least 20 minutes if you want to come and sit next to me" or just "well hello right back, my name's XXXXX" . Chances are they are just as nervous as you and any response might be a way to start a conversation.
BoerumHill Posted February 5, 2009 Posted February 5, 2009 Big friendly smile, raised eyebrows, look approachable. I wouldnt go alpha female on the front end with anything direct, subtle but friendly clues should be enough. A quick throwaway compliment is another good signal - "great hat", "love your glasses" - or maybe some random connection like "hey I have an iTouch too, aren't they great?" Something to get it started or generate interest without seeming contrived or desperate.
D-Lish Posted February 5, 2009 Posted February 5, 2009 A good way to open up dialogue when a guy says "hi" is to respond with an open reply. Counter back with a "hi, how are you?" Voila- you are starting a conversation. I would assume the "hi" is a way of testing the waters with you. If you simply smile and walk away, they may feel you are closing the dialogue.
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