sarahl_y_lo1 Posted February 4, 2009 Posted February 4, 2009 After being together for a year I began to feel quite serious. For some reason I flipped out, I cheated on him and immediately broke up with him. I told him that we are not the right people for each other but it simply not true. I am crazy about him I just can't bare to hurt him anymore. I want more than anything to have him back but I know how much I hurt him and he probably deserves better even though he said he would forgive me. He is the best anyone could ask for and I ****ed it up, I will regret it forever. Brent I will always love you.
Dexter Morgan Posted February 4, 2009 Posted February 4, 2009 After being together for a year I began to feel quite serious. For some reason I flipped out, I cheated on him and immediately broke up with him. I told him that we are not the right people for each other but it simply not true. Apparantly it was true, because if you cheated on him, he wasn't the one. I am crazy about him I just can't bare to hurt him anymore. Then let him be so he can move on with his life. I want more than anything to have him back but I know how much I hurt him and he probably deserves better Not probably....he does. even though he said he would forgive me. He is the best anyone could ask for and I ****ed it up, I will regret it forever. Brent I will always love you. Well let this be a lesson to you. Next time you find a wonderful guy you don't think you can bear to be without, try to keep your pants on around other guys, or your lips to yourself depending on what form your cheating took. Brent needs to move on so he can find someone that won't cheat on him.
Ramrod Posted February 5, 2009 Posted February 5, 2009 Dexter is on point, perhaps it's best to forget how you learned the lesson but remember the lesson learned. Brent does deserve better and if you truly love him, you'll let him go, set him free, leave him alone, refuse to reconcile. Once he's out of the picture altogether, I suggest you look inside and fix what's broken.
reservoirdog1 Posted February 5, 2009 Posted February 5, 2009 The first two responses are dead on. You indicate that he was the right guy for you, and that you "flipped out". Before you go any further with your romantic life, either with Brent or without him, you need to figure out what happened in you that caused you to "flip out". Getting nervous because a relationship is getting serious is pretty common, and understandable. Boinking some other guy during those moments isn't understandable -- it throws the strength of your commitment to Brent massively into question. There's always a reason when one partner cheats (which is not to say that there's ever an excuse -- they're different things). Either there's something going on wrong in the cheater, or there's something in the relationship they're unhappy with. You need to figure out what that is/was. You should probably leave Brent alone -- he'll have a hell of a time ever trusting you again to make a successful reconciliation a possibility. Chalk this up to a life lesson painfully learned, and devote yourself to figuring out what happened in you, so you don't "flip out" on the next guy you're in a relationship with. But, should you decide to try to win him back... make bloody sure you've sorted yourself out first. And be prepared to move heaven and earth to re-earn his trust and his respect. And accept, in advance, the reasonable likelihood of failure.
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