josh2828 Posted February 4, 2009 Posted February 4, 2009 So why would an ex continue to call every so often and want to hang out, if she is involved in a relationship, and knows you don't believe in being platonic friends? we were together 4 years and broken up for almost 3years, i broke up with her. When she does call (about every month or two) its just small chat, which seems pointless. what pisses me off is when she calls or texts like at 2am, which i know shes drunk, she then starts talking about the past. At first i was kinda upset that she was with someone new which i think is normal, but i got over it. Now i kinda feel bad for the guy, especially when she texts me at 2 am wanting to come over to my place. From a mutual friend she told me that she was very happy in her relationship with her boyfriend and that they are planning on moving in together. So i cant seem to understand why she wants to hang out, Ive never given her any indications that i want to be friends with her, or tell her that i miss her (even though i do, from time to time). any advice or opinions. thanks.
openbook08 Posted February 4, 2009 Posted February 4, 2009 hiya josh, i was with my ex for 5years. he dumped me. from my point of view, if it were i doing this, its because i still missed him & cared for him. he was my first love & maybe ill always be nostalgic over him.first love is so special but it always lingers, i think, if you were the one dumped. (more than likely in nothin more than a 'if only...' or as i said nostalgic way, the reality of ever getting back together wouldnt be as romantic i guess). hope this makes sense. now i did say , if , i were doing this. im not... i dont ever wanna see him let alone talk to him ever again. so im just giving you my opinion on why i might do something like youve described. i prob. would be still in contact with him (&possibly doing same as your ex had i not woken up & realised what a sorry sob he is!but thats a whole other story!!!!)
Geishawhelk Posted February 4, 2009 Posted February 4, 2009 So why would an ex continue to call every so often and want to hang out, if she is involved in a relationship, and knows you don't believe in being platonic friends? .... When she does call its just small chat.....what pisses me off is when she calls or texts like at 2am, which i know shes drunk, she then starts talking about the past. .....she texts me at 2 am wanting to come over to my place. .....Ive never given her any indications that i want to be friends with her, or tell her that i miss her ..... any advice or opinions. thanks. Do you ever answer her....?
Weird Posted February 4, 2009 Posted February 4, 2009 If you haven't already said it then tell her to quit contacting you because you have no interest in this trivial wanna-be friendship thing. If you have told her that and she hasn't got the picture then well, I'd say to get nasty on her to the point she will never want to talk to you again although she may get mad and just text/call you more than ever via anger. I dunno bro.
CaliGuy Posted February 5, 2009 Posted February 5, 2009 She is just tossing you breadcrumbs hoping to keep you as a back up plan in case her current relationship fails. Once again the same quote: "Never make someone a priority in your life who only sees you as an option." Think about that.
Recommended Posts