Illiandra Posted February 4, 2009 Posted February 4, 2009 Ive been seeing this guy for the past month and half... weve been on about 7-8 dates all which have gone wonderful... Since valentines day is coming up I was wondering would I have the right to be pissed if he didnt ask me to do something with him for valentines day? I know that hes not my bf and im not his gf, however, it seems like this could prob be the deal breaker for me at this point Would love to hear some feedback about this situation and if any of you are in the same boat Thanks!
Treasa Posted February 4, 2009 Posted February 4, 2009 I've been with my boyfriend for a few years and I don't think we've even really discussed Valentine's Day yet. It's still more than a week away. And maybe the day doesn't mean that much to this guy. Is the day more important to you than he is so far? You may be spending it alone either way.
Surfer Dude Posted February 4, 2009 Posted February 4, 2009 You should care more about romance, love, spontaneity, deep emotional and spiritual connections.... instead of bs semantics of bf/gf and the nonsense of Valentine's day.
Lizzie60 Posted February 4, 2009 Posted February 4, 2009 If Valentine's Day is a deal breaker for you.. wow.. he's better off without you.. come on now.. geezzz..
prettybaby Posted February 4, 2009 Posted February 4, 2009 I know that hes not my bf and im not his gf, however, it seems like this could prob be the deal breaker for me at this point No offense, but that's ridiculous. You're even admitting yourself that you two aren't officially bf gf yet. What is the guy supposed to do? Read your mind and plan out some fancy V-day outing, even though you two aren't exactly a real couple yet? Sounds like you're in for a deal breaker then, because it would seem logical for the guy not to go out of his way considering your situation. I mean, if you want to celebrate Valentine, then that's cool. But tell him. Or at least try to give him obvious hints. Don't expect him to magically show up with your ideal behavior and plans, especially when it wouldn't even flow with your current situation. That being said, have you planned to do anything for him?
Author Illiandra Posted February 4, 2009 Author Posted February 4, 2009 I was thinking maybe a card of some sort..Im not expecting anything fancy or great,,, I was just thinking if you liked someone wouldnt you want to spend vday together is more of what I had in line... Maybe ill just casually bring it up in a conversation as do you have any big plans for Vday and see what his response is! It would be a deal breaker in a way if he didnt mention it casually.. I do think at times it maybe over rated but if your in the process of dating and getting to know someone that you would want to hint at something around that time
SoulSearch_CO Posted February 5, 2009 Posted February 5, 2009 I'm curious as to why this has to be the guy's initiative. How about YOU invite HIM to do something for V-day? I sure hope that if you expect him to go all out for V-day that you plan on returning the favor on S&BJ day March 14th! Funny thing for me...I just started a new R with a guy and I'm more excited to blow his mind March 14th than I am sitting here worrying about what he's going to do for me Feb 14th.
Recommended Posts