anya85 Posted February 4, 2009 Posted February 4, 2009 Is it possible to talk to someone you're going out with on dates too often? Back story is met this guy on Match.com mid-late December. We became close, started talking a lot online--nearly every day and oftentimes for hours. It was slow to progress though, we didn't talk on the phone until 3 weeks into it and then we met a week after that. The dates have gone amazing! We always have such a good time, the conversation flows wonderfully, we really click. We always spend way too much time together and end up talking outside or in the car because wherever we've gone has closed. Any way, like I said, we've gone on three awesome dates, but he's never so much as touched me or kissed me yet. Which is ok. *But* we still talk online every siingle day---like last night, we talked for 4 hours. I really, reallly like this guy and I look forward to talking to him--but is it possible to talk too much? I sort of feel like it's "bonding" and not necessarily a bad thing, but others have told me that I should disappear sometimes so he'll miss me and want to see me more. Also, this is minor, but funny. He likes to threaten to bite me a lot. Like after our last date, he told me online that one of these days he'd feel comfortable enough around me to bite me and it'd be really awkward!(lol) I think it's cute and always challenge him back and tell him I could totally win(I could, I'm a biter too). This is flirting with me, correct? Part of me worries about why he hasn't made *any* moves yet(not that I'm rushing, but I worry maybe he's not as into me). But this shows some interest, right? lol
LovieDove24 Posted February 4, 2009 Posted February 4, 2009 You're fine. I'm a firm believer that there is no right or wrong amount of times to initiate contact with a man--so long as its reciprocated. For instance, if you called him 5 times and you only got one call back I'd say its time to disappear for a bit. But as long as he's responding, and initiating equal contact, its definitely fine to talk all you want! As for him not initiating any physical stuff with you yet, well that for me would be a dealbreaker BUT thats only because I prefer a more agressive man (and I'm sure there's instances where its stupid of me but...we're all creatures of comfort). So just be patient. It sounds like you really like the guy.
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