pandagirl Posted February 4, 2009 Posted February 4, 2009 So, this weekend I bumped into a guy I used to date with his new gf: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t178286/ I didn't go into it in that post, but he way he was flirting with me was crazy, body language, joke-making, googly eyes -- the whole shebang. It made me uncomfortable. We verbally made plans to hangout with this week, and though I wasn't going to, I wrote him yesterday asking him if he still wanted to, but I did so knowing I probably wouldn't hear from him. I thought maybe this could be a chance to slowly become friendly again, and it was clear from our encounter that we love being around each other. I'm tried to be really honest with myself with why I even care. It's been months since we dated and I have casually dated other guys during this time. Do I want to be with him? No. Do I have lingering feelings? Maybe, but nothing I would act on. Do I want him as a friend? Yes. I've always like him way past the constricts of dating. I think he wants to also, but he can't pull the trigger. Yes, he could just be playing with my head, but he also does things that shows he cares as a friend. I recently started a new business, and he wrote me congratulating me and has been supporting my ambitions ever since. When he introduced me to his GF, the first thing he said about me was: "She just started an amazing business that is doing great!" We've been playing this game since June 08. Really, I just want closure on the whole thing. I want him to say to me: "Sorry, we can't be friends right now," if that's what he's thinking. Or, "It's too complicated right now," rather than him showing up and disappearing all the time. Or maybe I should just take matters into my own hands, which is why I wrote him. Or maybe I just need to accept it is what it is. Am I fooling myself that he actually cares or is he just a selfish jerk?
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