OCCDAVE Posted February 4, 2009 Posted February 4, 2009 I exchanged id say a good 10 or so text with my ex during the day yesterday.it was strictly about getting my stuff back it was so hard not to get off topic.it brought back some memorys cause I miss having her to talk to and share how bad my day was.she then asked how im doing and hopefully im happy but for all I know it was said out of pity or who knows.I will continue taking it a day at a time its not easy meh.
imagine Posted February 4, 2009 Posted February 4, 2009 Hey OCCDAVE, Have you joined a gym and upgraded the physical side. Your vision is a babe. Do something to achieve this. You must!
Tryng2Trust08 Posted February 4, 2009 Posted February 4, 2009 I know exactly how u feel...to text a little and wanting to get off subject..and you know the last time we texted I did get off subject,and said I have tons of great friends but I missed our friendship more than anything....his response" I hear you" its not the end of the world, you have 2 beautiful kids. Although I have been feeling better and things are improving everyday, I do miss our friendship, hearing about his day and me telling him about mine. When he would call out of nowhere to complain about something or to tell me something that happend 2 him, I felt good that he was coming to me. Im sure your ex misses your friendship also, but you have to do things to move on and I really think having your stuff at her place is keeping you from really moving on.
Template Posted February 4, 2009 Posted February 4, 2009 I feel for ya man! I was friends with my ex for a good 1.5 years before we got "together", and in that time she became my best friend, (though I doubt I was her best friend). We would talk, and open up to each other, and I shared things with her, I literally haven't shared with anybody else to this day. That's what I wanted in a relationship, someone I can turn to when I needed to, and be that person as well for them. Obviously it didn't turn out that way, for a lot of us. I lost a lover, and a best friend, and it's really hard nowadays, especially, when I have no one to turn to. It's not easy.
Author OCCDAVE Posted February 4, 2009 Author Posted February 4, 2009 Guess I spoke to soon she was gonna drop my stuff off and felt the need to text this. Hey I won't be able to go today my boyfriends here . First off how disrespectful mainly cause its not like their playing cards anyway my reply was this Ok lemme know when I can stop by She said thursday or friday Fact she has another guy near her kids makes me sick to my stomach
lonelygurl Posted February 4, 2009 Posted February 4, 2009 She is f**king you around. At first I didn't think she was but now it is obvisious. If she does not let you get your stuff this time then I highly recommend you pick a day you're pretty sure she will be around, such as a school day and just show up. She is playing games with you to keep it going and the longer she can keep your stuff there the longer she can keep playing her f**ked up games. Don't let her do this to you. She doesn't give a sh*t about you because if she did she wouldn't be being so hurtful. I understand exactly how you feel with missing having someone to talk to. I am so lonely it is pathetic. I can't stop thinking about my X constantly. I go into sheer terror at times when I realize he is gone. I have no one to talk to about anything. I miss having him to talk to and cuddle with and just be with. I'm so sick of feeling this way. I agree with people that say to do stuff BUT this isn't the ONLY answer. Doing stuff doesn't just make it all go away. I'm doing stuff and it still doesn't help. My heart still aches all day. I can still cry at the drop of a hat/pin. I still can't concentrate because my mind wanders thinking about him. I still check for emails even though I've blocked him......I'm F**KED!! We are here for you!!
Author OCCDAVE Posted February 4, 2009 Author Posted February 4, 2009 Tell me about it not sure what her deal is.I hope it happens this week I had to rent a car cause mines in the shop if she puts off it off im really gonna be ticked off if im out money and don't get my stuff by friday.her memory also isn't very good yesterday she said it will be after 4 now it will be after 11.I am glad I didn't go today if he really is there why would u tell me show up cause u want a problem.
Author OCCDAVE Posted February 4, 2009 Author Posted February 4, 2009 I think that's what hurts me the most these kids I knew them for 3 years im the only dad they have had.I wish I could forget the kids and her but cant
badbrit Posted February 5, 2009 Posted February 5, 2009 yeah she is trying to screw you around. I would do this - you know she will be in during the weekday evenings because she has kids. Turn up with a friend to keep the peace, knock on the door and ask for your stuff. Screw her, just do it. Say nothing, do not get emotional, do not get in an argument, recriminations, blame or anything. Just ask for the stuff, if it is packed like she said, it will take you less than five minutes to load and go. Do it, enough is enough. You need to heal and although personally I would leave the stuff and write it off, you clearly wont so get it and close the door and walk away. Look, I am sure you said it is worth a thousand bucks or something right? Well come on, that is nothing, you could buy every one of the items second hand or on ebay for a couple hundred. They COST you a thousand but are not worth a thousand. I have walked away from a lot more than that, like a $400,000 house with a mortgage of just $60,000. I have left TV's, DVD's, furniture, appliances and god knows what else. Plus as father to three children with two women, I also pay them a combined $1000 a month as well as looking after them 40% of the time. Big deal. Money means nothing, mental health means everything.
Tryng2Trust08 Posted February 5, 2009 Posted February 5, 2009 I would just send a friend....She is playing games with you. How pathetic...you did what you could for her children and Im sure they won't forget it and neither will you. But you are no longer with them or her..I know it hurts.
Knight_Ctrl Posted February 5, 2009 Posted February 5, 2009 I exchanged id say a good 10 or so text with my ex during the day yesterday.it was strictly about getting my stuff back it was so hard not to get off topic.it brought back some memorys cause I miss having her to talk to and share how bad my day was.she then asked how im doing and hopefully im happy but for all I know it was said out of pity or who knows.I will continue taking it a day at a time its not easy meh. I hear you man, it ****in blows having this person that you can trust more than ANYTHING to have every single day to just talk to and support you and then have them suddenly taken away.
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