confusedandempty Posted February 4, 2009 Posted February 4, 2009 I haven't been able to think for the past few days. I did something so bad that I want to put a sword right through my stomach and stop this pain! I don't know what to do! I was watching TV on Saturday night when my best friend called and he was bored too. His gf was out with her friends and he was just watching TV as well. So we decided to go out for a drink. Three hours later he was so drunk I had to send him home. I wanted to party more so I called my college friends to find out were they were. When I was headed home in the morning, completely wasted, my friend's gf called me and asked if I wanted to share a cab (live close to each other). We did and when I was getting out of the cab in the front of my apartment, she said "I want to come in with you". I told her to go home and went inside. Few minutes later she rang the doorbell and asked if she could come in. The cab had left and I let her in, she was freezing. No need to go into details, but we both woke up in my bed without clothes and I can't remember anything!!!! Neither can she!. So I drove her home in the morning and she told her boyfriend (my best friend) that she lost the keys and crashed at my place because he didn't answer his cell or the doorbell. Well, we decided to forget about it. 10 minutes ago, she told me that she told him about everything last weekend. I have spoken to him since (I didn't know that he knew then), and he sounded just normal - Just like nothing ****ing happened! Of course it's not like that ... I have no idea what to do. I just want to buy a plane ticked and leave for a year or just no come back. This is the most stupid think I have ever done and ever will do ... and being wasted is not an excuse here! WHAT TO DO
Geishawhelk Posted February 4, 2009 Posted February 4, 2009 This whole thing stinks. Allow me to tell you why I think it stinks..... If she can't remember a thing, what did she tell him? I don't think she can have said anything, because otherwise, I think he would have been a bit more upfront with his opinion. On the face of it, and only with the info you give, she sounds as if she's a bit of a silly air-head and a drama queen. She sounds as if she likes to have sensation around her. What you do now, if he brings it up, is to flat, outright deny everything. Deny, deny, deny. It's her word against yours..... However, I will go one further..... if you were both so blind drunk that neither of you can remember anything, then it's likely you were both too drunk to do anything anyway..... And it's funny how you remember everything to the point she came round and knocked on your door, but then it all goes blank..... That's why it stinks.
Author confusedandempty Posted February 4, 2009 Author Posted February 4, 2009 Well, you are right, that she is a little bit of an airhead. I know that she has done this before (and I was surprised he didn't kick her out then). So maybe he just doesn't care ... I don't know. But about her, why would she tell her bf that she cheated on him, if she wasn't sure she didn't?? That sounds just plane stupid. And about me telling her to go home and me remembering all about that. That is one of the little details I didn't go into. We had few more drinks at my place before passing out ... or not passing out. But I am very well aware of what you said. If I was so drunk that I can't remember what I did, I'm almost guaranteed that it's no way that I could have performed that night ... so maybe nothing happened. I'm just not sure. But I guess you're right. She's obviously not a trustworthy person if she's done it before (neither am I though). So I guess the next step is to deny everything. Reasonable doubt Still it hurts to do this to my friend, I feel like a **** still.
Geishawhelk Posted February 4, 2009 Posted February 4, 2009 Why? What did you do? Nothing that you can think of. Stick with what you told him. leave it at that.
BackonTrack2 Posted February 4, 2009 Posted February 4, 2009 I haven't been able to think for the past few days. I did something so bad that I want to put a sword right through my stomach and stop this pain! I don't know what to do! I was watching TV on Saturday night when my best friend called and he was bored too. His gf was out with her friends and he was just watching TV as well. So we decided to go out for a drink. Three hours later he was so drunk I had to send him home. I wanted to party more so I called my college friends to find out were they were. When I was headed home in the morning, completely wasted, my friend's gf called me and asked if I wanted to share a cab (live close to each other). We did and when I was getting out of the cab in the front of my apartment, she said "I want to come in with you". I told her to go home and went inside. Few minutes later she rang the doorbell and asked if she could come in. The cab had left and I let her in, she was freezing. No need to go into details, but we both woke up in my bed without clothes and I can't remember anything!!!! Neither can she!. So I drove her home in the morning and she told her boyfriend (my best friend) that she lost the keys and crashed at my place because he didn't answer his cell or the doorbell. Well, we decided to forget about it. 10 minutes ago, she told me that she told him about everything last weekend. I have spoken to him since (I didn't know that he knew then), and he sounded just normal - Just like nothing ****ing happened! Of course it's not like that ... I have no idea what to do. I just want to buy a plane ticked and leave for a year or just no come back. This is the most stupid think I have ever done and ever will do ... and being wasted is not an excuse here! WHAT TO DO #1) The girl had it all planned out #2) She came to YOUR HOUSE #3) She rang YOUR door bell #4) She asked YOU to share a cab, (she has money) #5) She remembers EVERYTHING, EVERYTHING ----- Your the victim here
Geishawhelk Posted February 4, 2009 Posted February 4, 2009 BullSheet. He's not the victim at all. He was just as compliant as she was. He let her in, had a drink with her, and ended up in bed with her. Where does that strike you as being a victim? He's only panicking now because the cat might be out of the bag. He should have thought of that before he let her into his apartment.
Author confusedandempty Posted February 4, 2009 Author Posted February 4, 2009 That is true. There is no victim here, except from my friend perhaps. I just feel disgusted and I am not gonna call him, just wait until he contacts me... Nothing else I can do... Everything is too late...
Author confusedandempty Posted February 10, 2009 Author Posted February 10, 2009 Well a week has passed now and I have met this friend of mine. I knew I had to meet him last Sunday, because of birthday at our friends house. So I decided to visit him at work on Friday just to see how I was doing. Amazingly, he was just like ever before. Didn't mention it at all. Neither did he on Sunday. So there are two possibilities: 1. She didn't tell him. 2. He just don't cares. What ever the case is, I learned a lesson and this will never happen again. I promise that to myself.
redmelon Posted February 10, 2009 Posted February 10, 2009 You aren't innocent here, even if you couldn't perform. You were still naked with your friend's girlfriend, in bed. And you are right, alcohol lowers inhibitions, but it doesn't erase character and morals. It's not an excuse. I feel bad for your friend, it seems like he is surrounded by people that don't really care about him very much. I think you should come clean. I think he deserves to know. Wouldn't YOU want to know?
Geishawhelk Posted February 10, 2009 Posted February 10, 2009 I on the other hand am inclined to let sleeping dogs lie. You were a jerk. You know that. Learn from your behaviour, and learn that alcohol is a bad thing for you, in more ways than one. But if she's trying to yank your chain, and playing the prima donna, time will show her up. Have nothing more to do with her. The next time she comes knocking on your door - you'll know to behave differently.
redmelon Posted February 10, 2009 Posted February 10, 2009 I think you should treat your friend as you would want to be treated in a similiar situation. Wouldn't you want to know what's been happening behind your back? If you found out later on, wouldn't you feel like a fool? I just think you need to redeem your karma by coming clean and putting all cards on the table, not for yourself, but for your friend who is involved with a deceitful and manipulative person. I couldn't sleep if I had that on my conscience. I wish you the best in this very difficult situation, I hope you are able to make something positive come from it.
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