Alex_M Posted February 3, 2009 Posted February 3, 2009 I've been bouncing all over these forums from the time I broke up in November. We broke up but we were slowly fixing it, I sent her an xmas card with some appologies in it. She kept it and we were talking about the fun we used to have. My ex was happily talking to me up until about a month ago. One day she stops contacting me and disappears off msn. I try texting her to ask how she is. I told her that work was going well and that I was dating a girl (dumb thing to say, but she was dating this guy and never told me, and I wanted her to tell me.) She tells me that she's good, that someone has asked her out and that we might not be able to talk much because the new guy is jelous and doesn't like us talking because she's told him about all the good times we had. I try calling her a few times to catch up and just try to start talking again. (she made me promise her during our relationship that no matter what I would stay friends with her.) She never answers or replies to my calls. ( I called 3 times, over 2 days.) She texts me asking why I was calling her and I said I just want to catch up, call me when you can. I never get the call. I decide to cycle the 11miles to her uni in the freezing cold so I can speak to her. I get there, she never picked up her phone so I had to come back home, I had no idea which room block she was in. Plus I wasn't just going to show up without talking to her first. That's just scary. I get home, use another phone to call her, surprise surprise she picks up. She hears it's me, and sounds angry. She's asking me why I'm doing this. I say that it's because we haven't spoken in ages and I ask why she wasn't answering my calls. She says something like "Why can't you take a hint?" I told her that I was just making sure she was ok because I've waited a while to get a clearer picture and that I still love her. I ask her about the promises we made each other and she was like *shrug* and I asked if the guy she's been with for a month is really more important than our 1 year friendship + 2 year relationship. She says yes, she realises that she didn't really love me, and was only pretending to be happy at the end. But she loves this new guy after a month?!!? She then procides to crush me by saying things like. "Look, i'm with someone else now. What we had wasn't that special, someday you'll find someone and look back on what we had and realise it wasn't that great. I thought you were with that BECKY girl." I don't know how she can say these things to me. The girl who loved me so much, suddenly hates me, deletes my messages, ignores my calls and removes me from MSN. Aparantly they fight everytime she speaks to me and she blames me for it. They almost broke up because of a christmas card I gave her she had laying about. She also still sleeps with the teddy bear i got her last year. She crushed me, and tore my heart to shreds. I've taken some holiday time off of work. How can this happen? Is she trying to get back at me? What have I done? Did she mean it? Is she just trying to get over me? Trying to get me to get over her? I guess it doesn't really matter anymore, I don't think I can ever forgive her unless she came back with teary eyes and the biggest and most sincere apology ever.
lovingguy Posted February 5, 2009 Posted February 5, 2009 I know its hard my friend, I have been there, i got out of a 5 year relationship with my ex, she changed a lot also and decided after 5 years that she need to grow on her own. well she did, she left and a month later she is with this new guy. I still love her to this day but i know that even if she came back it wouldn't be the same. Its hard i know, i gave this girl the world and every part of me as you might have done as well. She is moving on and so should you. It will be hard and you might just need to focus on your self for now, see what makes you happy(and its not her if you really look deep enough) do the things that you enjoy. Her love for what you guys had is gone. Its hard to hear i know my ex told me that as well but you have to be strong. You are worth more than she will ever know. If she meant what she said you will never know, and knowing wont make it any easier. Take care of your self and keep a positive mind. Its a long road its been 3 months for me and its still hurts and she is on my mind constantly but like me, you have to try and remember that you deserve to be happy and things in life sometimes teach us lessons for future experiences good luck my friend
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