honeydollbaby Posted February 3, 2009 Posted February 3, 2009 Hi everyone, im definately new to this site and have no idea where else to turn. i have sought advice from absolutely everyone in my life and have come up with different answers from everyone. I have worked for the past 4 years very closely with a male coworker that has become a very close friend. He is married so we do not associate outside of work though. We talk about everything, flirt emotionally and physically, get opinions from each other and our morals and views are very very similar. We have never touched inappropiately or kissed. He has seen me through an awful relationship and i think about him all the time. He is a wonderful man and it is getting very very hard for me not to persue what i truly want... him. I know that he is married and i really respect that. I know how it feels to be cheated on and i don't want to condone it or help things along that way. He is very dedicated to his wife but really wants children but has already made it clear that he will not have children with her and is very unhappy in his marraige. I dont know if i should say how i feel to him or let it go longer and not say anything at all. I am 80% sure that he has true feelings for me but im terrified that if i make the wrong choice our friendship will be compromised. Im not looking to just have a sexual relationship with him, but i really really want him to know how i feel emotionally about him. please help me with any advice you might have!!! thank you!
Geishawhelk Posted February 3, 2009 Posted February 3, 2009 Well, I could post a huge long post touching on a lot of things, but to save time and effort I would say to you:- do nothing and say nothing until you hear the confirmation that either he - or she - is filing for divorce, and that it is truly and completely over between them. Do nothing whatsoever that would in any way come between him and his wife or influence him to consider infidelity. I'm telling you - step right away from this one and do the right and noble thing. Unless of course, you don't care to hear that, or think your needs, desires wants and rights are greater than his wife's. With whom he is still living and sharing a home and a bed with.
Author honeydollbaby Posted February 5, 2009 Author Posted February 5, 2009 i do definately agree with you that it is the right and noble thing. it's very hard but i know that i need to respect both of them right now. I just keep thinking that if I were her i wouldn't want some girl doing that... no matter if i was happy or not i guess. thanks for your insight!
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