redant Posted February 3, 2009 Posted February 3, 2009 My bf of 2 mnths went out with his step sisters last night not blood related. Anyway I got a bit jealous of one because she is very pretty and he was very excited to see her when she came to visit. Well I imagine they are out frolicking around since he has time off and she is here for vaca. What can I do to control my emotions I'm afraid I may get angry or upset over nothing!! Cuz I'm pissed he has not returned my email I assume he is not home!! Help!
Frankasy Posted February 3, 2009 Posted February 3, 2009 My bf of 2 mnths went out with his step sisters last night not blood related. Anyway I got a bit jealous of one because she is very pretty and he was very excited to see her when she came to visit. Well I imagine they are out frolicking around since he has time off and she is here for vaca. What can I do to control my emotions I'm afraid I may get angry or upset over nothing!! Cuz I'm pissed he has not returned my email I assume he is not home!! Help! You've been dating for 2 months, not 2 years. If he hasn't called you I wouldn't call it something to get worried about cause you two aren't that close with each other. You're acting as if you two can't spend 5 minutes apart. Second, step brothers and sisters are blood related cause they have one mutual parent. You are just being paranoid and dumb thinking that he could cheat on you with his step sisters. Third, maybe he spent the night out with them and is asleep or something. Plus checking his/her email isn't the first action someone would do when they wake up, at least that's how I know it. Send him a text message or call him. I'm pretty sure you're getting this all wrong and worrying too much.
Author redant Posted February 3, 2009 Author Posted February 3, 2009 It helps me to worry on loveshack. I usually get good advice too. Thank you!
carhill Posted February 3, 2009 Posted February 3, 2009 What can I do to control my emotions I'm afraid I may get angry or upset over nothing!! Pharmacologically, Xanax works pretty well for anxiety. TBH, if you're getting worked up over a guy, who you've been dating for two months, and his stepsister, there's probably a bit of other work needing to be done. You have no control over how you feel; you can only control how you process and act on that feeling. Validate the insecurity and jealousy and look within yourself for the answer. It's not about the guy and his stepsister
melodymatters Posted February 3, 2009 Posted February 3, 2009 Actually frank, step siblings are NOT blood related, their parents married each other after they were already born. Half siblings have one mutual parent. Redant, it's fine and good to come on here and vent rather than explode on someone who doesn't deserve it. I believe thats how most of us ended up here in the first place ! I agree with carhills advice. It IS something inside US that makes us jealous. I've always been a victim of retro active jealousy myself ! I don't have any great advice, but go do something ALL for YOU, that will make you feel better in the here and now. How much time do you two spend together ? It seems that you could have been invited to go "frolic" with BF and SS's depending on how close you two have gotten thus far.....
Author redant Posted February 3, 2009 Author Posted February 3, 2009 He did invite me last night. I couldn't go. Today I am working. Thanks I will look inside myself instead of lashing out. Great advice!
EYECANDY000 Posted February 3, 2009 Posted February 3, 2009 I'm sorry , but are you serious????? You are jealous of his step sisters? I would hate to see it when he wants to hang out with old friend! Girl, you need to get a grip.
Treasa Posted February 3, 2009 Posted February 3, 2009 If he invited you, you have nothing to worry about.
Author redant Posted February 4, 2009 Author Posted February 4, 2009 Thanks for the help and constructive criticism. My feelings/insecurities can take over. Where's my Xanax!
RRyan65 Posted February 4, 2009 Posted February 4, 2009 Redant, you're right to be a bit insecure. I would totally start something with a pretty step-sister if there were mutual attraction. Its the perfect setup! They both know that they can't be too serious with eachother since they are steps, but at the same time there is a taboo associated with it that doesn't cross any incestual lines. I love it!
oldguy Posted February 17, 2009 Posted February 17, 2009 I have two step sisters that I was raised with; THEY ARE STILL MY SISTERS! Let me sum it up with a very mature; “YUK”. I don’t think you have anything to worry about, unless you are from… (JK).
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