blondesmiler Posted February 3, 2009 Posted February 3, 2009 So chatting to a guy from online for few weeks, him texting everyday (no calling though but I didn't mind), we go out on date one he still texts after everyday just hi how are you etc etc. Then he asks to go out again, we do, nice evening he asks if I'd like to go out next week, I say yes that would be great. We kiss. I text to say thank you had a nice night etc got one back saying next time he wants to give me a big kiss. Next day sent text, suggesting when we could go out for drink, he says cannot make the day I suggested maybe Sat and I go back said cannot make that day unfortunately, have a nice weekend...not heard anything back now, for days. So I texted Monday to ask how are you etc got a response but nothing great or over friendly, I responded but nothing at all. Is this playing it cool or just being plain frosty & would rather i left him alone? Am not going to make anymore contact will leave it too him but would just like to know am I wasting my time. :confused:
Treasa Posted February 3, 2009 Posted February 3, 2009 And this is why I don't text. I think he's trying to blow you off. If he's interested, he'll contact you. Stop contacting him.
moman Posted February 3, 2009 Posted February 3, 2009 And this is why I don't text. I think he's trying to blow you off. If he's interested, he'll contact you. Stop contacting him. CHECK. Couldn't have said it better.
EYECANDY000 Posted February 3, 2009 Posted February 3, 2009 Hard to say. I would just lay off and see if he texts you or call you. Just seems like you two have conflicting scedules. Maybe he's busy, which is the reason why he hasn't contacted you.
nikki123 Posted February 3, 2009 Posted February 3, 2009 He doesn't sound interested. If someone wants to talk to you they don't play games. talkingchick.com
Viking Posted February 3, 2009 Posted February 3, 2009 Sounds like this girl I "met" online. I was interested in her, and she seemed interested in me, so we would text a lot, then she stopped answering emails so I stopped texting.
Author blondesmiler Posted February 4, 2009 Author Posted February 4, 2009 And this is why I don't text. I think he's trying to blow you off. If he's interested, he'll contact you. Stop contacting him. He doesn't sound interested. If someone wants to talk to you they don't play games. talkingchick.com I agree, sending a text doesn't take long, wouldn't expect texts all day every day but something at least. very odd though that this came after him stating he wanted to passionately kiss me next time he see's me....guess something else that seemed better came along or he just got scared because I was moving at my pace, and not his (which is fair enough IMO) C'est la vie
bean1 Posted February 4, 2009 Posted February 4, 2009 I go by a serious rule: if he doesn't call, he doesn't care. My SO texted but called just as much (a lot!). My good male friend also only calls, no texting. My dad calls. Those men have meaning. Guys who texted me (before my SO) and couldn't be bothered to pick up the phone to call me? Whatever... I couldn't be bothered to talk to them.
xjadex Posted February 4, 2009 Posted February 4, 2009 A guy who was really into you, wouldn't just text...he'd call also. Guys who are into you, make up any excuse to call, they want to hear your voice. A guy who just texted me all the time without calling, I'd blow him out immediatley...I loathe texting. And when they aren't calling you, don't call them! You should only ever show as much interest, as they are showing and this guys showing practically 'nil' interest.
pr-girl Posted February 4, 2009 Posted February 4, 2009 I'm going through a similar issue with someone. He has called ONCE and we spoke for 2 hours. I finally had to get off the phone and go to sleep. We've hung out once - and it was for 5 hours. I finally had to leave and go home to sleep. He always tried to prolong our connection. He seemed to really dig me. He also would text that he digs me. HOWEVER, whenever I've tried calling, I've received a voicemail. He'll text back, "Did you just try and call me? It's really loud in here" or "Did you just try and call? I didn't hear the phone. I'm at my buddy's. I totally would've called you back, but I don't want to be rude." He texts, texts and texts. What are these guy's problem? Are they afraid to speak with people? I've stopped initiating contact with him and he texts me every other day or so. I always reply, but I'm not asking him out or beginning conversations anymore. If he doesn't call, I'm putting forth no effort as well.
pr-girl Posted February 4, 2009 Posted February 4, 2009 Sounds like this girl I "met" online. I was interested in her, and she seemed interested in me, so we would text a lot, then she stopped answering emails so I stopped texting. Why didn't you call her? Maybe she got sick of emails and text.
LovieDove24 Posted February 4, 2009 Posted February 4, 2009 A guy who was really into you, wouldn't just text...he'd call also quote] Not true. He is probably nervous so he chose to text to break the ice. Since she has allowed it to continue on this way for quite some time now he is cowering behind the comfort of T9 word. He may genuinely like her but is in a comfort zone now. From my experience, texting as a means of conversating in a relationship is bunk. He may be cooling off or he may just be sick of text messaging at this point but doesnt wanna leave his comfort zone. Who knows. The only way to know for certain, the next time he sends a text say, "Give me a call about it later." If he does, you're fine. If he doesn't...well then just chalk this up to one more relationship ruined by communicating solely in text!
Author blondesmiler Posted February 4, 2009 Author Posted February 4, 2009 A guy who was really into you, wouldn't just text...he'd call also quote] Not true. He is probably nervous so he chose to text to break the ice. Since she has allowed it to continue on this way for quite some time now he is cowering behind the comfort of T9 word. He may genuinely like her but is in a comfort zone now. From my experience, texting as a means of conversating in a relationship is bunk. He may be cooling off or he may just be sick of text messaging at this point but doesnt wanna leave his comfort zone. Who knows. The only way to know for certain, the next time he sends a text say, "Give me a call about it later." If he does, you're fine. If he doesn't...well then just chalk this up to one more relationship ruined by communicating solely in text! Yes I did, basically I am nice so I think well maybe they might be shy and as the texts were regular I didn't mind. I also sometimes struggle to talk especially if had a rough day in my stressful job I am not on top form to speak to someone new. However he did set the president. He has been very frosty as its twice now not had any response and not heard anything for few days. So I think I get the message, he has lost interest, if he was interested he would have texted back or called to arrange going out again IMO, if he really wanted too. Too my way of thinking things shouldn;t be that difficult in the beginning it should be fun and you never second guess whether to text or not because it feels right to just do so!!?!!?
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