melissa123 Posted February 3, 2009 Posted February 3, 2009 So I need some help!!!! I havent seen or spoken in my ex in just under 3 months when he dumped me. Im not over him at all but am working hard. The thing is he will be in my city in two days time for training!! We will be standing literally two meters away from each other for the 3 days he is here! I am TERRIFIED!!!! I know it sounds absoluty crazy but I cant sleep at night and I worry all day long. Seeing him will set me right back to the start Im far from ready!!!!!! The ultimate nail in my coffin will be if he brings his new gf along, the one he left me for. So please help me!!!! What do I do! How do I act??? I have to be there and its sport trainning so I cant turn up drunk or anything! Does anyone have anyways I can lessen the impact on myself? And how do I act round him? Do I talk etc? Im so stressed right now!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Zammo25 Posted February 3, 2009 Posted February 3, 2009 So I need some help!!!! I havent seen or spoken in my ex in just under 3 months when he dumped me. Im not over him at all but am working hard. The thing is he will be in my city in two days time for training!! We will be standing literally two meters away from each other for the 3 days he is here! I am TERRIFIED!!!! I know it sounds absoluty crazy but I cant sleep at night and I worry all day long. Seeing him will set me right back to the start Im far from ready!!!!!! The ultimate nail in my coffin will be if he brings his new gf along, the one he left me for. So please help me!!!! What do I do! How do I act??? I have to be there and its sport trainning so I cant turn up drunk or anything! Does anyone have anyways I can lessen the impact on myself? And how do I act round him? Do I talk etc? Im so stressed right now!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Thats tough. My advice is make yourself look fantastic. Get some new gear, get your hair done, walk around with a big smile all day. Chat with the guys there. Act as if you are cool with the split and he will be so confused it will kill him. He will expect you to go their bedraggled and sad as if your World has ended, don't give him the satisfaction. Show him its his loss.
Zammo25 Posted February 3, 2009 Posted February 3, 2009 Thats tough. My advice is make yourself look fantastic. Get some new gear, get your hair done, walk around with a big smile all day. Chat with the guys there. Act as if you are cool with the split and he will be so confused it will kill him. He will expect you to go their bedraggled and sad as if your World has ended, don't give him the satisfaction. Show him its his loss. I know its all an act and it will be hard but its an act you must do.
Geishawhelk Posted February 3, 2009 Posted February 3, 2009 You know, that's great advice, and I concur. but actually, it's exceptionally good for you, yourself, psychologically too. if you make the very best of yourself, and present this confident, self-assured presence - if you keep doing it, eventually, you will become that. So start now. Do it now. Bcause come the day, you WILL be that person. Get your hair done. Get a sun-tan. (use tanning lotions, not lamps. Lamps f**k with your skin). Shower daily, exfoliate, apply smoothly. You'll look sensational. Do something new with your hair. Take advice from a good stylist, but colour it, perm it, whatever. Be different. Enjoy who you are and re-claim your power. men can do this too.......
not_a_happy_camper Posted February 3, 2009 Posted February 3, 2009 I have to agree. Don't do this for him, do it for you. You'll feel like a million dollars walking into that room knowing you look good. And when you know you look good, you'll feel good too! you have nothing to prove to your ex or his new girl. Prove it to yourself that you are above it all. (buy a hot pair of heels! comfy ones...........)
IcemanJB Posted February 3, 2009 Posted February 3, 2009 I'll chip in and give the guy's point of view here. If the guy is completely over you, it won't matter too much what you look like. About a month ago I got dinner with a girl I dated a couple years ago (I'm completely over her), and she looked really good; not going to deny it. BUT, I knew what she had put me through, so there was no chance I'd start seeing her. It was nice to catch up though. Anyways, I agree with the others in that you should improve yourself...well, for YOU. Frankly, it won't matter that much to him what you look like.
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