shadowsfall Posted February 3, 2009 Posted February 3, 2009 Recently I've been feeling pretty alone and its starting to get to me. I have plenty to offer, I'm independent, educated and have never had a problem meeting women. However, the past 9 months I've been single I've gone on a total of one date, which has been hard for me. I'm feeling discouraged, and although I know its unlikely It will stay this way forever, Its been hard to get used to. I broke up with my gf of 3 years about 9 months ago and decided to take a self-reflective period of no dating to get my head straight. Only thing is I never imagined it would last almost a year. What I find is pretty fun though, is that when people look at me they assume I have a lot of friends, dates, nice car, you get the idea. While I do have a nice car, the other two have been lacking for some time. During the week all I do is work and go to school and honestly I never talk to anyone during the week unless its at one of those places. Its funny, I have a cell phone and MAYBE use 200 minutes a month talking to friends. That's how little I talk to anyone anymore. Weekends are great cuz I hang around with guy friends but its the same cycle over and over. School/Work/Guy friend weekends. There are no dates, and haven't been for some time. Anyway that's where I'm at right now and any advice would be greatly appreciated.
messiah Posted February 3, 2009 Posted February 3, 2009 i suggest you save up some money and go travelling. Get out of your comfort zone experience new people and cultures the world is so big and you must see it.
goodguy123 Posted February 7, 2009 Posted February 7, 2009 I know how you feel, I have been feeling very lonely myself. I also have a good job, nice car, nice place, but I can't meet a girl for the life of me.
LovieDove24 Posted February 9, 2009 Posted February 9, 2009 Honestly you sound like you're in a very good place. I think you were smart to take 9 months to spend alone and reflect rather than hop into something too quick. The next girl you get serious with will respect you for that . Anyways to me it doesnt sound like you have a problem here. The only thing I would suggest now that you are craving social time "without" the boys is start going on some dates. How you may ask? Well the easiest way I know how is to join match.com. If you're not comfortable with that the next time you go out with some friends I suggest picking a wingman and trying to converse with girls. You don't really need advice, you just need to start going on some dates.
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