lofi_tokyo Posted February 3, 2009 Posted February 3, 2009 So I had been talking with this guy for about three weeks, and we kept making plans on Saturday evenings, but they just wouldn't pan out - once because were too tired (he gets off work at 2am), and twice because he went drinking when he got off work with the guys. We also planned a movie night at my house which had to be canceled because as soon as he got to my place he was called into his work (hes a manager there). Last Saturday, I made plans saying "well we should hang out tonight" he said "yeah we should, except I work from 2pm-close" (implying he worked 2-2). I replied "okay well if you're too tired after work its no problem, I may be tired too, but we'll see how things pan out". Well, I stayed up until 3am and didn't hear from him - so I texted to see where he was at, lo and behold he was out drinking with the guys. I told him I thought we should call off whatever we had going between us, he asked "what?" I explained I thought we were gonna hang out... which lead to a series of text exchanges which in summary had him being confused and me being annoyed. The next day I sent an e-mail his way being a bit more clear about WHY exactly I was annoyed (ie. Me waiting up for his call), to which he replied "sorry, I didn't know we were supposed to hang out". So. Two questions: Do you think this guy is worth going after? Was it wrong of me to call things off after many canceled plans? If it was just a miscommunication, and I was in the wrong at getting annoyed, are things recoverable? Hes a great guy in many regards, we talk quite often in group settings, but just havn't been able to pin down solid plans. He has told me hes incredibly shy around girls he likes. Not sure what to make of that! Anyways. Sorry if this is long, any and all input is welcome!
Author lofi_tokyo Posted February 3, 2009 Author Posted February 3, 2009 Eww and sorry my title is so sloppy - I CALLED things off. And I don't know where that "S" came from. lol
Dumbledore Posted February 3, 2009 Posted February 3, 2009 Eww Did he try to stick his finger into your butthole? Anyway, why is your lovelife so complicated? Do you enjoy the drama? In life, you will always find it more rewarding if you kick back, relax, and let things come to you. Take my advice, and start reaping the benefits.
RRyan65 Posted February 3, 2009 Posted February 3, 2009 So I had been talking with this guy for about three weeks, and we kept making plans on Saturday evenings, but they just wouldn't pan out - once because were too tired (he gets off work at 2am), and twice because he went drinking when he got off work with the guys. We also planned a movie night at my house which had to be canceled because as soon as he got to my place he was called into his work (hes a manager there). Last Saturday, I made plans saying "well we should hang out tonight" he said "yeah we should, except I work from 2pm-close" (implying he worked 2-2). I replied "okay well if you're too tired after work its no problem, I may be tired too, but we'll see how things pan out". Well, I stayed up until 3am and didn't hear from him - so I texted to see where he was at, lo and behold he was out drinking with the guys. I told him I thought we should call off whatever we had going between us, he asked "what?" I explained I thought we were gonna hang out... which lead to a series of text exchanges which in summary had him being confused and me being annoyed. These parts stood out for me, and they could be a real problem. Does he work at Wal-Mart? Dump his ass.
Author lofi_tokyo Posted February 3, 2009 Author Posted February 3, 2009 Hahaha I totally agree with you Dumbledore over the drama thing... which is kind of why I was thinking I should just stick with things being "called off". In the past, the guys I've gone on a few dates with were easy to go out with, and when things didn't work out well, hey, thats dating for you. I guess I didn't have to text him about being annoyed - I could have just politely declined all future offers to hang out, but I guess I wanted to get my point across - I felt stood up! The mini-drama in calling things off in itself annoys me a bit, because until that point things between us had been quite laid back. Oy. And yeah Ryan, those things you highlighted are what had me concerned too... So I guess the conclusion is! Its a good thing I called things off when I did. No need for drama, and no need for working around a crazy schedule! Darn it though, hes such a cutie. ;p
Dumbledore Posted February 3, 2009 Posted February 3, 2009 Darn it though, hes such a cutie. ;p I wish he'd stick his finger in my butthole. Maybe a little wiggle. Maybe a little circular action to prepare me for the main event. Are you absolutely sure that you're finished with him? I don't want to cramp your style.
SoulSearch_CO Posted February 3, 2009 Posted February 3, 2009 Well, it didn't sound to me like you two had plans the night that you sat up for his call. He's no mind-reader. If you were going to wait to hear from him, you should have said so. But I do agree that his schedule sounds ridiculous. And the fact that he'd rather go boozing with his buddies than hang out with some hot chick - he's not worth your time. I say just leave things as they are.
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