katterskacy Posted February 3, 2009 Posted February 3, 2009 Here it is. I need advice and how to cope. A year and a half ago, I met this great guy. Tall, blond, gorgegous and rich. Most of all, he & I had great chemistry. We started hooking up. He travels alot for work but would come to my city once a week for work and would see me. I never called him, he always called me and we talked daily and have for a year and a half now. He said he has never been married and does not have a girlfriend. however, he could never do things on weekends. I didn't really care because I liked him so much But, I was always suspious, so I did a background check about 9 months ago. It turned up that he had been married twice but divorced twice. There was a female sharing his SSN so I looked her up and found pics of them on a boating site. Turns out he has a girlfriend. He lied to me again this weekend about a super bowl party. once again found pics of them on this site. He called me at 5pm and said that he was working tonight and that he would call me in the am about us getting together this week in mine or his city. He NEVER works nights so I called him 2nite at 9pm. The girlfirend answered the phone. She preyty much cussed me out and said some awful things. I have not yet heard from him but I left a voicemail about an hour agao and told him I did not care. The trouble is, I do care. I'm in love with him and it hurts. Please help.
bentnotbroken Posted February 3, 2009 Posted February 3, 2009 Here it is. I need advice and how to cope. A year and a half ago, I met this great guy. Tall, blond, gorgegous and rich. Most of all, he & I had great chemistry. We started hooking up. He travels alot for work but would come to my city once a week for work and would see me. I never called him, he always called me and we talked daily and have for a year and a half now. He said he has never been married and does not have a girlfriend. however, he could never do things on weekends. I didn't really care because I liked him so much But, I was always suspious, so I did a background check about 9 months ago. It turned up that he had been married twice but divorced twice. There was a female sharing his SSN so I looked her up and found pics of them on a boating site. Turns out he has a girlfriend. He lied to me again this weekend about a super bowl party. once again found pics of them on this site. He called me at 5pm and said that he was working tonight and that he would call me in the am about us getting together this week in mine or his city. He NEVER works nights so I called him 2nite at 9pm. The girlfirend answered the phone. She preyty much cussed me out and said some awful things. I have not yet heard from him but I left a voicemail about an hour agao and told him I did not care. The trouble is, I do care. I'm in love with him and it hurts. Please help. What do you love? The way he lies to you? Or the fact that he is attached?Or was it the rich part?
Author katterskacy Posted February 3, 2009 Author Posted February 3, 2009 I love him. The rich part had nothing to do with it. I don't love that he lied. I don't love that he is attached. Last night I really thought about it and I decided that I do decerve better. It just seems so much easier to put up with him and just be the other women. But I'm trying very hard to not contact him and profess my undying love for him. I just need coping strategies and what to do on monents of weakness.
jwi71 Posted February 3, 2009 Posted February 3, 2009 I love him. The rich part had nothing to do with it. I don't love that he lied. I don't love that he is attached. Last night I really thought about it and I decided that I do decerve better. It just seems so much easier to put up with him and just be the other women. But I'm trying very hard to not contact him and profess my undying love for him. I just need coping strategies and what to do on monents of weakness. How about that every word he spoke and the very foundation of your love is a lie? As you poured yourself into him and the illusion of what you thought was real...he was watching the clock. When you missed him...he was with her. When you cried for him...he was with her. That all the promises he made - he NEVER intended to keep. How about - being second or third or fourth best in HIS life. Knowing this...if you wish to continue accepting the scraps of attention he offers - then go forward. Because his gf comes first...and he can slot you in when he's in town. If you're lucky. Maybe. Come on girl - think for a second - don't you deserve better?
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