seibert253 Posted February 3, 2009 Posted February 3, 2009 Your wife is sleeping with not one, but two other guys, and you're even considering keeping her around? You need to pack her bags and send her on her way.
Phateless Posted February 3, 2009 Posted February 3, 2009 I know what you mean. I would agree that the bulk of the responsibility should still lie on your SO for letting it cross the line. I was just trying to point out that the OM aren't exactly innocent either. Very true, I agree with that.
Dexter Morgan Posted February 3, 2009 Posted February 3, 2009 Ok let me rephrase that. The other person shares some responsibility, like in my mind maybe 20%, but the bulk of the responsibility lies with the person who broke a commitment. I don't care HOW intensely some guy pursues my girl, I trust her to reject him because she loves me. Now he's still a dick for pursuing her, but if she cheats, it's her fault for giving in, not his fault for pursuing. Giving blame to the other person alleviates the person who cheated. "I couldn't help it, he just wouldn't stop." Grow up. True, but the OM would still be a louse and cretin for sleeping with someone elses wife.
BentSpine Posted February 3, 2009 Posted February 3, 2009 We're gonna have to disagree then about the Other Man: The pursuer is only a dick if he continues to pursue even after the woman consistently rejects him strongly in words and body language. The difference between us is that I think one must decide each and every morning to be a partner in words and actions. Married people may divorce if someone comes along that makes them realise what their heart is really yearning for.
Phateless Posted February 3, 2009 Posted February 3, 2009 True, but the OM would still be a louse and cretin for sleeping with someone elses wife. Completely agree. When I was single I sometimes had women who were in relationships coming on to me. I never let it progress because I know how I would feel if it happened to me. We're gonna have to disagree then about the Other Man: The pursuer is only a dick if he continues to pursue even after the woman consistently rejects him strongly in words and body language. The difference between us is that I think one must decide each and every morning to be a partner in words and actions. Married people may divorce if someone comes along that makes them realise what their heart is really yearning for. I completely agree with this too. You have to decide to be committed every day, and again every time there is an opportunity to stray.
Dexter Morgan Posted February 3, 2009 Posted February 3, 2009 The pursuer is only a dick if he continues to pursue even after the woman consistently rejects him strongly in words and body language. Well, he is a dick if he pursues when he knows she is married and even committed to someone else.
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