entityzero Posted February 2, 2009 Share Posted February 2, 2009 Im trying to make some sense of how this whole mess happened to me... When I started dating my ex, there were all these red flags that i saw but didnt recognize, and was wondering if you guys think these things may have something to do with her leaving me and moving on so quick without giving a ****.. - She was 17 (I was 24) - Her dad was an alcoholic - Her mum hated her as a child - Her parents were divorced - Her brother was a criminal - Had constant dreams about blood, murder and me cheating on her (which i NEVER did or would of) - She cut herself - She had LOW self-esteem - She used to steal clothes and make-up from stores - She used to hang around older people when she was 14 - 15 - Used to cry really easily - Would stay up all night smoking bongs before a work day - Had a friend who was just as unstable - She'd been sexually abused to some degree by past "Friends" of hers - She cheated on her ex boyfriend to be with me - Would always pretend everything was OK when she knew it wasnt Im sure there were more, but I was so blinded by having this HOT 17 year old wanting me that I chose to ignore that stuff or take it on board and try and fix her. So, was I asking for it to all turn to s**t in the end? She dumped me and immediately started seeing a friend of mine who is just as messed up as her (he's 32 by the way, WTF?) I can see the flags but was there really no hope for this relationship because of them? I need to make sense!! Link to post Share on other sites
BackonTrack2 Posted February 3, 2009 Share Posted February 3, 2009 I'm sorry I couldn't help but read your story and laugh and I tell you this because you don't appear to be hurt, more upset than hurt... Eitherway WOW, those are like REALLY REALLY big red flags. I don't know, I guess the way a person was raised is how they react to life, if you don't come from a good family, then chances are, your a little messed up. I mean I am not one to judge, but i believe I was raised with morals and good-ness, some people were not raised like that, I never knew that though..... I thought everyone had good families, I thought everyone was raised with a certain degree of inherent righteousness but I was wrong, some people just don't give a fawk....... But yeah, your GIRL was damaged and will remain like that for a long time. My EX was damaged as well, she took drugs, (i stopped that), she had low self-esteem (i tried to make her confident), she didn't get along with her father, her mother ruled her father, she had fights with family member's and would come stay at my place, I forced her to go back though and face her problems, I mean, I think she left me better off than when she came however I am not sure, because in the end She left me for another, ps she left another for me. So, I don't know, I guess you have to be a really strong person with allot of emmotional support to be able to hold onto a damaged girl like that, they usually want someone to put them in LINE when they step out of it, I pretty much gave my ex the right to do anything, but the one thing that really got to be was the cheating, she did twice, first with her EX, i didn't care about her so it was whatever, then with someone new and by the time I found out, man oh man, I loved her to much, more than myself, so she half-way walked over me, but not fully. I guess what I'm saying, is in the END, its not about THEM, its about YOU and how to react to the situation because in life, things can change within the blink of eye, easy come, easy go. But WOW, your ex needs at least 4-5 different men before she is even remotely ready for marriage... She has to use them, take their strength, apply it to herself and throw them away before she gets to be normal. You had a good run, remember that, be happy she's gone, she was only trouble. Link to post Share on other sites
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