LaCancerChick87 Posted February 2, 2009 Posted February 2, 2009 A guy and i have been getting to know each other for about 5 6 months now. We live in the same state, but just the northern/southern section... Hes a really nice guy, smart. ect ect. One day out the blue i told him i didnt want to deal with him anymore. Honestly i will tell you guys i was jealous and that made me think of a previous relationship. So he didnt say anything back about it. The next day i apologized and explained why i acted that way. He responded which i thought he woudnt and told me he isnt feeling me right now. That hurt but i could understand... we started to argue because he explained to my friend, she think she is my girlfriend and blah blah blah. so he spoke to me and said i just think you are demanding time like a girlfriend. so we argued more and im being mean, he's like im not looking for emotional attachment right now. which was odd because He used to say things like i need to work on making him love me ect and he would never talk about sex. ALL i was saying is, for us to be distant, i dont want to spend money to come out and see you, then you loose interest so fast (he visits me too) so he knows i find him attractive, mentally, phyiscally, sexually, emotionally. So times flys by and he is making comments that would make me think he liked me still, but i ignore everything and since im "demanding time like a girlfriend", i started acting childish and wouldnt contact him as much as i used to. . so one day he told me to do something, i found it funny and he goes "im runing this relationship" and he has said this about 3 times in the past month. im confused, what relationship is he talking about? so he says things like i wish you were up here ect ect, he came down recently and we had sex for the 1st time...no biggy. so the next day he has this attitude because something happened, i gave him his space but he is talking to my friend(not worried about anything between them) so later that night he admited to her he was acting an azz and he should have been with me that day. i told her i dont plan on seeing him while he is down here, there was no reason to talk to her for an hour or two but not me, he said goodnight. thats it. the next day we just said goodmorning he said hed talk to me later because practice ect. So the whole day he is now asking her to hook him up with one of her friends because he isnt married, isnt commited and technically he is single...WRONG RIGHT! you dont ask my FRIEND TO HOOK YOU UP! and she told him that she tells me everything he says to her, she was saying he was trying to make me jealous and dont go get mad and go off because he will see you later on when they have free time. all day we did not speak. so he ends up talking to one of her friends b4 the weekend is over with, but that day he tells her to like get me to take him out ect ect he wants to see me and go to dinner with me. WHY CANT HE ASK ME? so i say no, im an hour a way and wont be back out to my hometown to like and hr or 2 later. so he was like would she get mad if you took us to get food b4 we have to go back. so she is still like dont get mad....What do you mean? do you know something i dont? she said she doesnt know and he got quiet. He asked her this after i said i didnt want to have anything to do with him and ive been mad since thur, he ask wut happened....i just told him leave me alone. so he tells her why is she gettin mad at me for no reason all the time and he finds it funny. he is also telling his friend that he supposly tells everything about this. time flys by, im mad he is in a meeting. when he got out he asked her when she comes up there to visit her friend will she bring me. she said she doesnt know so he got quiet. i guess there was some dont tell me going on here cus he implied it to her. so we figure he is either stupid (which he is not), he doesnt care or he is doing it on purpose.... he showed he cared by asking when am i coming, dont tell me and will i get mad if she took them...so i figured he was doing this all on purpose. i also think my friend told him i was going to hang out with guy friends instead of him because i was mad at him talking to her the day he was mad instead of me. so he is purposly telling my friend about her friend because he knows she will tell me, he is purposly trying to get with one of her friends instead of all the other girls in the world, so she will tell me. so i cursed him out! so the next day, he is all like dont know what to do...frustrated as hell. it could be he is talking about me or what happened at the game...but i think he is talking to me. all of this happened from wed to sat, we still havent spoke! im sorry i wrote so much, but i was really ready to drop a friend along with him, im thinking about it, im confused, hurt ect, but now it seems as if he did want to make me angry on purpose playing games. idk what do you guys think.
infophreak Posted February 7, 2009 Posted February 7, 2009 I think you are taking things too in the now... think about the longer term, how does he treat you? Do you enjoy spending time with him? Is the distance an issue... etc.
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