I dont know where to go or right now...feel like i am at a cross road

[Brady_to_Moss]

Past 2 weeks of my life has been a time in which i have given great thought about my future and where i want to go in life. I thought about school, my lack of love life and just everything in general. I have been full of anxiety this past week and i am not sure why. I am 20 years old and i am were i need to be in life right now...i am just so worried about my future and if i am going down the right path.

 

My lack of love life gets me depressed but i am a shy person and like to keep to myself so i dont mind right now. I am just more worried about what my future holds for me.

 

I am looking to move into a house next year off campus with my good friend and it has got me thinking a lot of how i am on my own now and it gets me a bit scared. Just not sure what to do right now...

[Geishawhelk]

There seems to be a lot of feeling amongst the "younger folk" here that life ceases having any meaning at *insert young age here*, if love ends....

 

Love never stops happening at any age. It knows no limits.

I know it seems at your young age that things appear pointless, aimless, meandering, without purpose.... but truly. At 'severalyears' older than you, I can honestly tell you that's not the case.

 

If you'd like suggestions, if I were you, I really would relish the opportunity of being alone right now.

Love who you are, find out who you are, decide what you like, decide what you cannot stand, or will not stand for.....

 

I'm 52.

Embarking on studies to pursue a new career.

Sheesh! If I can do it anyone can!!

[carhill]

You have the freedom to explore any path you wish. I suggest you avail yourself of it.

 

Find a path you have passion for and you've found your life's work. Then, wander off and explore the other paths as they present themselves.

 

Life is a procession of opportunity. Embrace it and you will have lived

[Eve]

Past 2 weeks of my life has been a time in which i have given great thought about my future and where i want to go in life. I thought about school, my lack of love life and just everything in general. I have been full of anxiety this past week and i am not sure why. I am 20 years old and i am were i need to be in life right now...i am just so worried about my future and if i am going down the right path.

 

My lack of love life gets me depressed but i am a shy person and like to keep to myself so i dont mind right now. I am just more worried about what my future holds for me.

 

I am looking to move into a house next year off campus with my good friend and it has got me thinking a lot of how i am on my own now and it gets me a bit scared. Just not sure what to do right now...

 

I found turning 20 hard! No other age bothered me as much..

 

I would say that it would be good at this time to realise certain patterns in your behaviours/thoughts. Being reflective can seem like a burden at times but really the more attuned you become to your own ways of processing whats going on for the you the healthier you will be. I have periods of being highly reflective and at these times I play music more, go for walks etc. I have learned that the being in tune with my inner world equates to being able to be a good problem solver and generally a more chilled out person. Which leads to not being as troubled by problems/life in general.

 

There are changes ahead for you but well done for all you have achieved so far! Moving of campus can be frightening. Have you started to get an idea of who you will share with? Are they reliable? I say write down all that you are feeling.. any concerns etc. Its good to put stuff on paper and give the old grey matter time to focus on other things. The brain keeps going.. trying to find solutions for as long as we allow it to. Put in healthy stop points so that you get enough sleep and your diet remains varied. Most importantly, live in the moment, no matter what.

 

Students can get discounts on just about everything! I would strongly advise that you try a massage/spa session or something like that. Get your Parents to pay for it! Or if you do not like being touched find an activity in which you are entirely attuned just to the motions needed. It is important that we allow ourselves 'flow experiences' where we lose our thoughts and just 'be'. Lack of 'flow experiences' are linked to depressive episodes.

 

Make sure that you stay close to those who really know you and open dialogue about how you have been feeling. You may find that others are thinking the very same things and are glad to talk!

 

Good luck with everything. Be the best you can be.

 

Regards,

Eve xx

[Brady_to_Moss]

I found turning 20 hard! No other age bothered me as much..

 

I would say that it would be good at this time to realise certain patterns in your behaviours/thoughts. Being reflective can seem like a burden at times but really the more attuned you become to your own ways of processing whats going on for the you the healthier you will be. I have periods of being highly reflective and at these times I play music more, go for walks etc. I have learned that the being in tune with my inner world equates to being able to be a good problem solver and generally a more chilled out person. Which leads to not being as troubled by problems/life in general.

 

There are changes ahead for you but well done for all you have achieved so far! Moving of campus can be frightening. Have you started to get an idea of who you will share with? Are they reliable? I say write down all that you are feeling.. any concerns etc. Its good to put stuff on paper and give the old grey matter time to focus on other things. The brain keeps going.. trying to find solutions for as long as we allow it to. Put in healthy stop points so that you get enough sleep and your diet remains varied. Most importantly, live in the moment, no matter what.

 

Students can get discounts on just about everything! I would strongly advise that you try a massage/spa session or something like that. Get your Parents to pay for it! Or if you do not like being touched find an activity in which you are entirely attuned just to the motions needed. It is important that we allow ourselves 'flow experiences' where we lose our thoughts and just 'be'. Lack of 'flow experiences' are linked to depressive episodes.

 

Make sure that you stay close to those who really know you and open dialogue about how you have been feeling. You may find that others are thinking the very same things and are glad to talk!

 

Good luck with everything. Be the best you can be.

 

Regards,

Eve xx

 

 

I agree.

 

20 seems like a tough age for me. Like right now i just feel like i need to change my life right now just be being more open about things and being happier. So werid to feel like this but i think its for the better.

 

Today i sat down with a cup of my tea and did home work all night watching my farvorite show for like 5 hours and loved every second of it and my mind was so cleared. Tonight felt amazing. Time to myself really just made me think...