BackonTrack2 Posted February 2, 2009 Posted February 2, 2009 long story short, ex and i broke up she was cheating, i man up, ended it but gave in, now we are friends this lasted for another month, eventually i grew fed up, realized she wasn't coming back, ended that went back week later, she cussed me out, told me never contact her again ----- ok, so i deleted from FB, blocked her,took down pictures, threw away everything, the whole nine yards was recovering. had her blocked for maybe 11 months, in that time, i cotacted her once, about 6 months ago in the effect of "i am forgetting you, I don't remember u anymore, do something" - no reply anyway about 3-4 days ago, i unblooked her as well, who cares... 1 day after the unblock, she changes her FB, add some trival stuff, small but enough that i noticed (she was alive) (ps i would check on her FB once in a while during this 10 month period, no changes, never) so anyway, some friends put some photos of me, tagged me on it as well, it was me at a club having fun, mingling, u know doing what i do. 1 day later, she changes her relationship status, to "in a relationship" ------- I brought this up to my cousin, he starts laughing and say wow "thats a hell of a coincidence" - my reply was yeah, thats strange no changes in 11 months but the moment i unblock her, there is changes..... anyway i really don't care, but by her doing that a) I started to feel better, I'm like "she still feels something" b) then i started to think some more "whomever this dude is, he isn't doing it, she still remembers" anyway my cousin goes, she's probably lieing, so I reply, no dude, its probably a coincidence, he replies "its a hell of a coincidence" then he goes, have she put up any photos, i'm like i dunno, i can't see the photos. So me personally, I think she put that up so I wouldn't contact her (not that i tried) but whatever.... I'm dumb that way..... I didn't even know she was cheating on me, I thought she was acting really weird..... (I was still having sex with her at the time so I didn't notice the cheatting until she started to actually make me work for the pussy.... thats when i started to get annoyed) anyway, backdrop (she was cheating for good 6 months) the breakup was CRAZY to the point where there is NO going back on either side, we both did/said some things that well u really can't go back from, so in life I know i will never again contact her and I feel as if she will never again contact me so thats that...... more backdrop - i wanted to marry her she was trying to get pregnaught by me we were toghet 1.5 years, she was cheating 6 months of those 1.5 years but she never left, i had to force her out (in my own way) eventually she got fed up and told me to FAWK off and ofcourse i was broken, but since recovered mostly... so what you guys think about the facebook changes, i just took it as face value like "she's in a relationship" but at the same time, I'm like wow, that means she was like actively checking up on me this past year, and she must of did it often because she started to change her stuff when I unblocked her (within 48 hours) and i know this because i would check up on her from other people's account. eitherway i am now thinking to myself look at what our relationship has become, two strangers, looking at each other's life though a digital profile, thats sad, i loved that girl but i guess thats how it works..... damn.... now that i'm really thinkg about it.. I lost a good friend, next time i'll just breakup with the girl and keep things level.... but in the end, she choose this, not me.. so whatever.... i don't feel guilty anymore....
DJMarky Posted February 2, 2009 Posted February 2, 2009 Hmm, ok well I will give you my opinion since you have helped me out with mine. Wow, must look like I am on this site all the time, but I work as a web developer, so always on computer, plus I do free-lancing for a couple of hours here and there to get some side cash, which is what I am doing now. I am just back from the beach as I surf most days after work .. anyways enough proving that I have a life to a bunch of people who don't give a **** and for all they know I am actually obese and haven't moved out of my mum's basement for the past few years. I am new to this whole thing. I always have ended it and never looked back, didn't give them a second consideration, but as you know the last relationship I ended still has me dwelling on it. So I am new to this whole thing where there are hidden meanings behind people's actions after a break up. Anyways .. I think her changing her relationship status could mean two things. One, which you have already thought about, is that she wants to scope how you will react as you still hold some importance to her. I mean, if one of my ex's (besides the recent one) added me to facebook, I wouldn't feel the need to change my relationship status, I wouldn't even consider it. Hell, my ex ex is over in canada atm, and I have talked to her once a week on msn, just polite chit chat (after the break up I couldn't care if she was seeing someone the day after, I had lost my feelings for her) and I never brought up that I had a new girlfriend. Didn't feel the need. Now, if she started talking to me and I had a grudge and/or I still had feelings for her, then I might bring it up, maybe try and be subtle about it, to see her reaction and to check if there was anything there. The other possibility is that her current boyfriend was with her and he noticed you were again friends on facebook, and asked who you were, and she said her ex, then he told her to change her relationship status to make sure you wouldn't make a move. This is the least likely of them, the dude would have to be pretty insecure. So yeh, i'd say she wanted to gage where she stood with you and whether you would take any notice. Though, I can't say whether she is lieing or not. I think you unblocking her showed her that you were still thinking about here, it may have gone to her head and she wants to **** around with you. I mean come on, changing her status as soon as you give her any attention.
Author BackonTrack2 Posted February 2, 2009 Author Posted February 2, 2009 One, which you have already thought about, is that she wants to scope how you will react as you still hold some importance to her. I mean, if one of my ex's (besides the recent one) added me to facebook, I wouldn't feel the need to change my relationship status, I wouldn't even consider it. Hell, my ex ex is over in canada atm, and I have talked to her once a week on msn, just polite chit chat (after the break up I couldn't care if she was seeing someone the day after, I had lost my feelings for her) and I never brought up that I had a new girlfriend. Didn't feel the need. Now, if she started talking to me and I had a grudge and/or I still had feelings for her, then I might bring it up, maybe try and be subtle about it, to see her reaction and to check if there was anything there. The other possibility is that her current boyfriend was with her and he noticed you were again friends on facebook, and asked who you were, and she said her ex, then he told her to change her relationship status to make sure you wouldn't make a move. This is the least likely of them, the dude would have to be pretty insecure. So yeh, i'd say she wanted to gage where she stood with you and whether you would take any notice. Though, I can't say whether she is lieing or not. I think you unblocking her showed her that you were still thinking about here, it may have gone to her head and she wants to **** around with you. I mean come on, changing her status as soon as you give her any attention. Well yeah, I didn't add her as a FRIEND, I just unblocked her. Another option my cousin said was Maybe you people were just thinking about each other during the same time period(s) So I dunno, I just thought it was strange and would ask others to see what they think But in the end, I can't waste brain space on this, so I'll just write it off as, routine maintenance on her facebook page. thanks for the input, you've just confirmed what i was thinking but then I said NA, she's over it. probably just routine maintenance... ok i'm lieing to myself.... -- wow, it was surprising though, this just makes me feel even more sorry for her, i hope she finds someone so she can completely forget about me, i didn't treat that girl as I should of, i don't even know why she stayed for so long, she must of loved me or something.. i hope i didn't mess her up to badly... a year later and she's still got a point to prove then again i'm a cocky dude and well..... going to be pretty damn hard to forget me.... guaranteed. lots of memories, lots of memories, i barely remember though, what did she tell me "i am going to remember you long after you have forgotton about me" and based on this last action, i am starting to think she was right, i just remember her as a girl whom i use to have sex with ALL THE TIME, and then as a girl whom stuck to me like glue and finally as a girl who messed me up for a year, funny thing though, if this 8 months ago, i use to feel as if she was apart of me, now I feel nothing at all really, that "relationship" thing didn't even phase me at all, it just triggered the mind wow, i guess i really never loved her at all, but then again i only had love ONCE so until I have something to compare it to, I won't know what to make of that last relationship i use to feel as if it was a GLIMPSE of the future, of how life would be once I got married but now I'm leaning more toward, "it was a fling".. strange how once you recover you become the person you USE to be, its been so long that I wouldn't even care if she contacted me or not, but for her to try and provoke a reaction out of me by changing her facebook status less than 48 hours after i unblocked her... WOW, she still feels something, thats sad, she shouldn't of left if that was the case... oh well..
foxh1234 Posted February 2, 2009 Posted February 2, 2009 I will be blunt. Facebook means nothing and is a complete fantasy world. Who cares what she puts on her page, stop looking, your broken up and your better for it. her life is none of your concern at this point. You are healing and getting over her. Don't look at her page and put the past where it belongs, behind you. Good luck in the future, you are better off without the cheater, take it from me, been there. Peace
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