noone Posted February 2, 2009 Posted February 2, 2009 It's been more than 4 months since the break up but I still can't move on. I mean, my life still goes on but my heart continues to bleed. We are not in contact (I have to control myself from emailing or calling him). Should I just consider him dead? Whenever I think of that, I can't help burst into tears. I am grieving the loss of a best friend and a lover. If I don't consider him dead, I can't stop myself from thinking of getting back together - this year, next year, or however long it takes. I love him.
BackonTrack2 Posted February 2, 2009 Posted February 2, 2009 Yes he's dead and he's moved on. Its over between you. What you shared is now gone. He is the past and you are beautiful. Its his lost. You are going to feel sad and hurt for a couple more months. Then you are going to start feeling better and become happy again. All you need is time. Good Luck to You!!
Author noone Posted February 2, 2009 Author Posted February 2, 2009 After reading this thread, "Pain from death vs. pain from infidelity" (http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t41340/), I think I will choose to believe my ex is dead. I will remember the good times and still have faith in love. It was a touching read. Reservoirdog1 and garciagirl, I hope you have moved on and are happier now.
steveraves Posted February 2, 2009 Posted February 2, 2009 I agree with the above, He's dead.. The person who loved you doesn't exist anymore (literally). He may look the same, but the person he was towards you has changed. The only thing that exists of the relationship are the memories.
lonelygurl Posted February 2, 2009 Posted February 2, 2009 From the little bit of reading I had been doing it said to treat the break up like a death. The grieving process is the same as death and in some cases some feel it can be worse because the person is still alive and you may wonder for a long time which can keep the grieving process going on longer. Try to treat it like a death because what you had is dead. He is gone and moved on. That is not to say that the pain and grieving you feel will be any less. Try to do some reading on grieving. Also I recommend some reading on what they call Radical acceptance. I am in group therapy called DBT and that is in one of the modules they teach. You have to try to accept reality for what it is. It is by no means easy and I'm sure not there.
tomanytearscried Posted February 2, 2009 Posted February 2, 2009 If you don't mind me asking what happened with you two and have you had any contact at all with him.I know moving on is hard but have you tried meeting new people and see where it goes.
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