gopher Posted February 1, 2009 Posted February 1, 2009 Done something intentional to avoid the interest of the opposite sex when you weren't already in a relationship? Some things might be... Gaining weightLosing weightunflattering hairstyleDressing like a slobAvoiding interaction with single women or menJust curious...
manchvegasgal Posted February 7, 2009 Posted February 7, 2009 I used to hang out at a lot of goth and fetish clubs and I have been known to pretend I was a drag queen. With all the makeup, wigs, leather, and flashing lights it was hard to tell who was what and what end was up. If someone started moving in, I would say "Listen you're great but I've got to be honest, I'm a guy"...yes I would actually say I was being honest. They would usually complement how convincing my drag was and we would sit and have a drink anyway.
Lizzie60 Posted February 7, 2009 Posted February 7, 2009 Done something intentional to avoid the interest of the opposite sex when you weren't already in a relationship? Some things might be... Gaining weightLosing weightunflattering hairstyleDressing like a slobAvoiding interaction with single women or menJust curious... Huh? why would someone do something like that? I don't get it. What's wrong with just saying you're not interested..
Gold Pile Posted February 7, 2009 Posted February 7, 2009 There's been a (very few)few times when I just didn't want to interact. Not sure why...just off my game or something. I tried to go unnoticed and if I was noticed anyway I told her that I wasn't into premarital sex and wasn't so sure about postmarital sex either. It's sure fire way to scare off someone who just said hello.
OpenBook Posted February 7, 2009 Posted February 7, 2009 I wasn't into premarital sex and wasn't so sure about postmarital sex either. :lmao::lmao::lmao: Yes, I've done things to discourage interest from the opposite sex - don't pay any attention to them, be busy all the time, have a no-nonsense, matter-of-fact businesslike approach, etc. The ironic thing is, sometimes this backfires and draws their interest even more!! Men... You can't win for losing with them.
Lights Posted February 7, 2009 Posted February 7, 2009 There have been times where I intentionally avoided socializing in general and just threw myself into other things. While somewhat worthwhile, I do regret it because whatever I had spent my time doing really was a second-best that I had chosen out of an angry rejection (that my ego would like to have considered pre-emptive) of the social scene and not out of wonderful happiness with what I had been doing instead. So basically during those times I chose to throw away whatever tiny little chance I had at successfully meeting anyone of the opposite sex. When I think about it I sometimes get angry about it; the feeling of "damned if you don't, 99.9999999999% chance of damnation if you do" and no reason to believe that the real benefits of socializing would come my way even if I played along has pretty much wrecked me, and I'm not so sure I've ever really escaped the situation. So sometimes I'm not even sure whether to be more angry (at having been held off) or regretful (at having felt like throwing away whatever little I could have had) about it. It's better when I don't think about it.
Trialbyfire Posted February 7, 2009 Posted February 7, 2009 While I've never done anything like your list, I've gone on dating strikes or sabbaticals for months on end, turning down every single date request. Sometimes people need to recoup, figuring things out internally, before venturing out again. It's also fun to just enjoy being single, with full freedom and responsibility only to yourself, family and friends.
annieo Posted February 7, 2009 Posted February 7, 2009 :lmao::lmao::lmao: Yes, I've done things to discourage interest from the opposite sex - don't pay any attention to them, be busy all the time, have a no-nonsense, matter-of-fact businesslike approach, etc. The ironic thing is, sometimes this backfires and draws their interest even more!! Men... You can't win for losing with them. This is so true. I have noticed that if I am sick, hungover, couldn't be bothered to wear clean clothing/put on makeup, or am generally in a pissy mood, more guys seems to give me the glad eye. Well, maybe not more, but it seems that way, as I realize that I look like living hell and people should run for cover. It's made me surmise that men just like a challenge. Or maybe they can sense when you're in a weakened state, therefore more vulnerable.
sam light Posted February 7, 2009 Posted February 7, 2009 This is so true. I have noticed that if I am sick, hungover, couldn't be bothered to wear clean clothing/put on makeup, or am generally in a pissy mood, more guys seems to give me the glad eye. Well, maybe not more, but it seems that way, as I realize that I look like living hell and people should run for cover. It's made me surmise that men just like a challenge. Or maybe they can sense when you're in a weakened state, therefore more vulnerable. it's more like we spot you looking slightly shabby and thinking no one else would have you (as in you must need it bad:bunny:). Then thinks he is the only one smart enough to imagine you looking better in make-up and clean clothes.
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