dreamergrl Posted February 1, 2009 Posted February 1, 2009 Alright so round to from http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t178194/ I go in, initially there is no one there but him. Yay! He said hi to me right away, I went back and picked out something (I really didn't need anything). Right as I was walking up, a lady comes in, tells me to go ahead, I said "no no that's alright you can go first". So I get up there, ask for a scratch off ticket (he sold me a supposed winner last time), he goes, oh you mean the winning one. I said "yeah that's what you told me last time". He tells me, "Didn't work out too well huh?" So I proceed to ask about bowling, said it was an easy score to beat. He mentioned his friend was going to Iraq, so they had to go do something for his friend. I asked where a bowling alley near by was (playing dumb). More small talk. I mentioned I didn't know many people around this area (I don't, I didn't grow up in this town, and the people I knew, I didn't care for). He said he didn't either. Then I realized there was a huge line behind me, so I moved off to the side, for a few more seconds of chitchat. I totally forgot to mention my name, I couldn't bring myself to give him my number. However, I made better eye contact, smiled a lot, and did ask questions. I wasn't all prettied up or anything, maybe I looked like crap. Why isn't he asking me out darn it! Ahhhh Would it be dumb to call him at the store, he's the only one there.
MichaelAsh Posted February 1, 2009 Posted February 1, 2009 You know, many guys want a girl to be forward with them... I personally don't like the games, and love when a girl peruses me. Just as long as they aren't creepy about it!
Author dreamergrl Posted February 1, 2009 Author Posted February 1, 2009 What would be considered creepy to you in this situation?
MichaelAsh Posted February 1, 2009 Posted February 1, 2009 I guess, if after the date, if she became really clingy, or over bearingly talkative. and also, i would suggest that you ask him to do somthing sooner then later... By constantly going to his shop and starting pointless small talk and not perusing him may freak him out... Just go for it
Author dreamergrl Posted February 1, 2009 Author Posted February 1, 2009 Well this is only the fourth time I've been there when he is. I didn't think to actually stop in until the previous time when he seemed flirty. There's only two places to stop in town, and one is on the other side of town, so each place kind of has the same people stop in each time. It's a SMALL area. I guess I just thought if I mentioned .. hey I don't know many people around here (blah blah) it would pave the way for him. Now I don't know if he's paving the way for me. I hate this part. Would it be creepy to ring him up, or should I just wait until next time I see him?
MichaelAsh Posted February 1, 2009 Posted February 1, 2009 ring him up? you mean call him? Also, telling him you dont know many people is an excellent way.. but dont make him feel like a last resort... lol
Trialbyfire Posted February 1, 2009 Posted February 1, 2009 dreamergrl, just keep going back here and there and chatting him up, flirting with him. If he's interested, sooner or later he's going to ask you out. Green light says "GO"!
Author dreamergrl Posted February 1, 2009 Author Posted February 1, 2009 ring him up? you mean call him? Also, telling him you dont know many people is an excellent way.. but dont make him feel like a last resort... lol I already mentioned this, tonight, and he told me the same. Grrrrr. Yeah I meant calling, but seeing how I don't even have his name yet cuz I'm such a dork, that prolly would be dumb. dreamergrl, just keep going back here and there and chatting him up, flirting with him. If he's interested, sooner or later he's going to ask you out. Green light says "GO"! What's taking him so long to hit the gas pedal then lol
Stockalone Posted February 1, 2009 Posted February 1, 2009 I already mentioned this, tonight, and he told me the same. Grrrrr. Yeah I meant calling, but seeing how I don't even have his name yet cuz I'm such a dork, that prolly would be dumb. I wouldn't call even if you knew his name. If you can't come up with a reason to introduce yourself during your flirty small talk session, do it just before you leave. When you have paid and he says goodbye. Take two or three steps towards the exit, then stop, look back, make eye contact, smile and say "By the way, my name is dreamergrl". Then walk out of the store. That gives you the chance to see if he is checking you out when you leave, which he probably does (assuming there are no other customers he has to attend to) and he now knows your name. It should also help him with spotting that green light. Maybe he will get the hint and act right there or he will at least know your name. It puts the ball in his court as it is now his turn to do something. The next time you go there, he should be able to call you by your name and also introduce himself and it should help him feel more comfortable to make a move. What's taking him so long to hit the gas pedal then lol He could be shy too and missing the clues. Not every guy is going to recognize a green light unless he gets hit over the head with a huge, bright green neon sign. Maybe asking out customers is not something that is too well liked by his employer. I agree with TBF though. Keep doing what you are doing. Remain flirty and see if he bites. P.S.: It's nice to see you back.
MichaelAsh Posted February 1, 2009 Posted February 1, 2009 I would not recommend calling him! Do you think he is the shy type? Maybe he is afraid of rejection, and won't ask you out in fear of that! Seriously though, sometimes guys need a billboard!! It is hard for us to tell who likes anyone these days... EVERYONE IS A FLIRT I have persued a few girls that i was positive that they were flirting with me! Turned out, they thought i reminded them of their little brother! I suggest being CRYSTAL CLEAR! in the 21st century, guys are not expected to have to make the first move ne more!
Author dreamergrl Posted February 1, 2009 Author Posted February 1, 2009 I wouldn't call even if you knew his name. If you can't come up with a reason to introduce yourself during your flirty small talk session, do it just before you leave. When you have paid and he says goodbye. Take two or three steps towards the exit, then stop, look back, make eye contact, smile and say "By the way, my name is dreamergrl". Then walk out of the store. Haha I can picture myself remembering this and actually saying dreamergrl. Yeah you are right about calling, I'm just less shy this way. That gives you the chance to see if he is checking you out when you leave, which he probably does (assuming there are no other customers he has to attend to) and he now knows your name. It should also help him with spotting that green light. He did the previous time. He was watching me out the window, as I was him, as I was driving off. Maybe he will get the hint and act right there or he will at least know your name. It puts the ball in his court as it is now his turn to do something. The next time you go there, he should be able to call you by your name and also introduce himself and it should help him feel more comfortable to make a move. He didn't seem as "peppy" and out going this time, is that bad? He could be shy too and missing the clues. Not every guy is going to recognize a green light unless he gets hit over the head with a huge, bright green neon sign. Maybe asking out customers is not something that is too well liked by his employer. I agree with TBF though. Keep doing what you are doing. Remain flirty and see if he bites. So you think it would be bad if I was more forward? P.S.: It's nice to see you back. Thanks!!
Author dreamergrl Posted February 1, 2009 Author Posted February 1, 2009 I would not recommend calling him! Do you think he is the shy type? Maybe he is afraid of rejection, and won't ask you out in fear of that! Seriously though, sometimes guys need a billboard!! It is hard for us to tell who likes anyone these days... EVERYONE IS A FLIRT I have persued a few girls that i was positive that they were flirting with me! Turned out, they thought i reminded them of their little brother! I suggest being CRYSTAL CLEAR! in the 21st century, guys are not expected to have to make the first move ne more! He doesn't come across shy, he makes conversation, and prior to tonight, we was the one to initiate it. Is there a way to be crystal clear without saying "you want to go out sometime"?
MichaelAsh Posted February 2, 2009 Posted February 2, 2009 He doesn't come across shy, he makes conversation, and prior to tonight, we was the one to initiate it. Is there a way to be crystal clear without saying "you want to go out sometime"? I dont believe there is any other way! lol... Good Luck!
Stockalone Posted February 2, 2009 Posted February 2, 2009 Haha I can picture myself remembering this and actually saying dreamergrl. Yeah you are right about calling, I'm just less shy this way. You are doing fine. He did the previous time. He was watching me out the window, as I was him, as I was driving off. That sounds promising. He didn't seem as "peppy" and out going this time, is that bad? No, I don't think it is bad. As much fun as talking to you is, he is still at work. He doesn't earn his money by talking to you. Maybe he was just short on time or a bit stressed because he has to tag goods, restock shelves or whatever else he has to do at the store. Or he could have simply had a less "peppy" day. So you think it would be bad if I was more forward? No. If you don't mind being more forward, be more forward. I just thought you had not so good experiences with guys who don't make the first move. That's why I agreed with TBF that you should just keep flirting, thus baiting/encouraging him into asking you out. Thanks!! You are welcome.
Author dreamergrl Posted February 2, 2009 Author Posted February 2, 2009 I am horrible with having to make the first move, but I'm also getting antsy Plus, I would have thought with the baiting I did tonight, I would have gotten a response for sure. Time to put my big girl pants on and get over this whole shy problem.
underpants Posted February 2, 2009 Posted February 2, 2009 Next time you go to the store. Say "hey, that ticket you sold me was a little lucky. If your interested I'd like to take you out to lunch with my winnings. What do you say?" Or, you could fill out a ticket and say...I think your phone number would be lucky. Although that is creepy. Don't get worked up. Just ask already. If he shoots you down then at least you will know. No biggie.
Author dreamergrl Posted February 2, 2009 Author Posted February 2, 2009 Ooh Ooooh what if I did this... Get a ticket, write my name and number on the back, hand it to him, and say here let me know if it's a winner :cool::cool:
underpants Posted February 2, 2009 Posted February 2, 2009 Ooh Ooooh what if I did this... Get a ticket, write my name and number on the back, hand it to him, and say here let me know if it's a winner :cool::cool: That might work, but what if he doen't notice? Come on. Put on your big girl panties. You could go in fill out a ticket or buy something. He might start thinking you have a gambling problem...but also (ahead of time) write you name and number on a piece of paper and say. 'I wanted to give you my number, since we both don't know too many people I thought we could hang out some time. My name is dreamer. Call me.' Then exit gracefully. Then come here and vent all about it. Good luck.
Author dreamergrl Posted February 2, 2009 Author Posted February 2, 2009 That might work, but what if he doen't notice? Come on. Put on your big girl panties. You could go in fill out a ticket or buy something. He might start thinking you have a gambling problem...but also (ahead of time) write you name and number on a piece of paper and say. 'I wanted to give you my number, since we both don't know too many people I thought we could hang out some time. My name is dreamer. Call me.' Then exit gracefully. Then come here and vent all about it. Good luck. I could hand it to him back side facing up. Wouldn't it look funny coming in with my number all ready to go? Maybe I'm just thinking to hard.....
underpants Posted February 2, 2009 Posted February 2, 2009 I could hand it to him back side facing up. Wouldn't it look funny coming in with my number all ready to go? Maybe I'm just thinking to hard..... Yes you are thinking too hard. You could. He would see the number, but then you will have to stand there in uncomfortable land watching his gears click and that would be excruciating. I think based on the convo of you two not knowing many people and you making a stop by to grab a soda and give him a warm hello and your number shows that the brief convo resignated. That you thought of him. You could have jotted it down in the car for all he knows. Especially since their was a line before. I like this plan, but someone else might have a better one. Just do it. No regrets. Serve him. Then the ball will be in his court. If he calls great, if he doesn't you know that you tried. One thing is for sure. You will make his day.
Author dreamergrl Posted February 2, 2009 Author Posted February 2, 2009 Do you think based on how he's been with me that he is in fact interested though? I guess that's my biggest fear is that he wasn't really flirting, just a friendly person. I know I wont know until I try, I think I'm just putting so much thought into it because I''m worried I'm reading him wrong.
underpants Posted February 2, 2009 Posted February 2, 2009 I can't tell you that. He might not be. He might have a girlfriend and just being nice. He might be a jerk, or a nice guy, shy and at work??? Would you rather do nothing or do something?
Author dreamergrl Posted February 2, 2009 Author Posted February 2, 2009 I can't tell you that. He might not be. He might have a girlfriend and just being nice. He might be a jerk, or a nice guy, shy and at work??? Would you rather do nothing or do something? Point taken. Alright, next time I see him, I'll take the bull by the horns and go for it.
hunkahunkaburninlove Posted February 2, 2009 Posted February 2, 2009 OK dreamgirl, this is what you do. Call him up and say that the lotto ticket he sold you was another dud. But if he would like to make it up to you. "We could go and grab a cup of coffee and buy the next lotto ticket at some other store."
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