bcat Posted February 1, 2009 Posted February 1, 2009 hey im having a little trouble with my ex girlfreind... we went out for a little over 3 years and also were high school sweethearts.. back in the summer around june we both sat down and desided to take a little break from eachother... since we were always together everyday 24/7 but we both said we would meet back up after a month or so... just take some time apart... well i was all for it and when it reall came down to it i got depressed and so scared that i would loose her forever... so i called her and text her everyday till it got to the point where she hated me... and she said in on of the last phone calls that it wasent ment to be and we need to date other people... well it was rough but a month went by and i was hearing that she was telling my freinds and family that she will never find another guy like me and that she really misses me but would never come out and tell me that.... then i went to this party and she was there and love hit us both right in the face and we got back together for another 5 months where.. we pland to move out and start a family... and she even asked me to marry her ... and one day i told her that she seemed kinda weird from school and work so i told her take 2-3 days and relax and chill out ...well durning thoses days we talked and she was telling me that i had nothing to worrie about and everything will be ok... well that weekend her sister called me and asked me why we broke up... confused and shocked i tryed calling her and she wouldent pick up my phone calls at all...and a week later her sister told me that she got asked out on a date with some guy whos 5 years older then her... thinking a date could be good cause it would make her relize that she misses me... but it was the total opp. of what i wanted... she moved in with this guy an hour away from her family who she was so close with and never gave me a reason or anything to our 3 year relationship... 2 months into her new guy she calls me and askes to be freinds... i love this girl with all my heart i would die for her... im trying so hard to move past her but i cant... its been 6 months now since we ended it and she calls me like 3 times a month to see whats up... i just dont know how she can have a just freinds relationship with me when she asked me to marry her and planed to move out... it just doesnt make sence... i told her i would like to be freinds becasue all i want is my life back with her... what do i do and how do i get her back????
kizik Posted February 1, 2009 Posted February 1, 2009 I think the first step is to realize that they prefer to spell it "females." I know - crazy, uptight, beeotches, so concerned about spelling, but there ya go. Case in point. Although you DO have it spelled correctly in your actual post.
Geishawhelk Posted February 1, 2009 Posted February 1, 2009 ... 2 months into her new guy she calls me and askes to be freinds... ... im trying so hard to move past her but i cant... she calls me like 3 times a month to see whats up... i just dont know how she can have a just freinds relationship with me when she asked me to marry her and planed to move out... ... what do i do and how do i get her back???? Right: Listen up, and listen carefully. What I am about to tell you is the definitive truth, and everyone who comes on here will vouch for this. ONE: She keeps in contact with you, not because she wants to keep you as a friend, but because she is trying to assuage her own guilt at having dumped you the way she did. She contacts you to make herself feel better, and for her own benefit, not for yours. True. TWO: You can never hope to have a friendship with this girl because you've slept with her, had sex with her and been intimate with her and YOU ARE NOT OVER HER! Friendship at this stage is utterly out of the question, won't work and will hurt you too much. The only time you'll be able to be friends with her is when you have so completely moved on, you're married with kids, and she's with a guy who when you see her kiss him, will only make you wish her well. Until then, you're dying inside and friendship is killing you. THREE: The solution is to go COMPLETELY, TOTALLY UTTERLY, ENTIRELY AND UNCONDITIONALLY NO CONTACT with no exceptions. You must never, ever contact her again, in any way shape or form, and you must cut her off in every way possible form ever getting in touch with you, no matter how she tries and why. You do not respond, repkly or react to anything she might write, phone, text or mail. Then - and only then - can you think of healing. As for getting her back? Forget it. She dumped you once, and came back? More fool her. You'd take her back a second time? More fool you.
BackonTrack2 Posted February 4, 2009 Posted February 4, 2009 all I can say is WOW, that's real talk, the cold hard truth
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