ate_the_paint Posted February 1, 2009 Posted February 1, 2009 Well, I've been nearly 8 months with NC, moved away from the town we had moved to together, and I'm setting up shop with a new life. It's very exciting to be reclaiming my own identity (as opposed to the 'couples' id and then the 'broken hearted' id). New job, new hobbies, starting to make new friends, new hopes, etc. In fact she is really just a fading memory, although I am a bit nervous for the future because I'm totally out of sync with the dating game. I was wondering how other people are coping here. What have you done with your lives since your breakup?
kizik Posted February 1, 2009 Posted February 1, 2009 Well, I've been nearly 8 months with NC, moved away from the town we had moved to together, and I'm setting up shop with a new life. It's very exciting to be reclaiming my own identity (as opposed to the 'couples' id and then the 'broken hearted' id). New job, new hobbies, starting to make new friends, new hopes, etc. In fact she is really just a fading memory, although I am a bit nervous for the future because I'm totally out of sync with the dating game. I was wondering how other people are coping here. What have you done with your lives since your breakup? Hey ATP, all I can say is great job. Sounds like you are doing AMAZING. It has been 8-9 months for me, too, and I have done many of the same things you have (new city, new job). It feels GREAT to know that we can improve ourselves WITHOUT the nagging influence of our ex. You are a success, my friend, and don't you forget it.
Author ate_the_paint Posted February 1, 2009 Author Posted February 1, 2009 Thanks kizik. It's good to know that you're doing well, too. Keep up the forward momentum!
flosslight Posted February 2, 2009 Posted February 2, 2009 I moved to a different part of the city and got a new job. I then went traveling to South America for three and half months. That was one of the best decisions I have ever made. I left the country for several reasons. I did not realize how amazing it was to not have of the ex in any part of my life until I got back. I'm still in the same city, but I have a new job and some solid new friendships. I plan on going traveling in a year or so. No worries about the dating game! I have done a bit and it is not that hard. It is about how I remember it.
foxh1234 Posted February 2, 2009 Posted February 2, 2009 Well, I've been nearly 8 months with NC, moved away from the town we had moved to together, and I'm setting up shop with a new life. It's very exciting to be reclaiming my own identity (as opposed to the 'couples' id and then the 'broken hearted' id). New job, new hobbies, starting to make new friends, new hopes, etc. In fact she is really just a fading memory, although I am a bit nervous for the future because I'm totally out of sync with the dating game. I was wondering how other people are coping here. What have you done with your lives since your breakup? Hey atp, glad to hear your doing well. I'm feeling great and enjoying life. Not dating really but hope to soon. Hanging with friends and doing lots of new things. Planning a trip to Vegas for mid february.
EmperorR Posted February 2, 2009 Posted February 2, 2009 Almost 5 months nc, I have Learnt so much about about myself and relationships in general. I reconnected with old friends and made new ones got closerr to my family and met this amazing girl.
BackonTrack2 Posted February 2, 2009 Posted February 2, 2009 Well, I've been nearly 8 months with NC, moved away from the town we had moved to together, and I'm setting up shop with a new life. It's very exciting to be reclaiming my own identity (as opposed to the 'couples' id and then the 'broken hearted' id). New job, new hobbies, starting to make new friends, new hopes, etc. In fact she is really just a fading memory, although I am a bit nervous for the future because I'm totally out of sync with the dating game. I was wondering how other people are coping here. What have you done with your lives since your breakup? Its really easy, I suppose you just find a female who you are interested in and whom shows interest in you and then you build a relationship... Nothing really NEW, its just finding that person based on your current personaility whom want to date YOU BACK. Finding that person though in my experience has been difficult, prehaps its the crowd I am surrounding myself with. ----- As far as COPING goes, I'm in a better place again, nothing has really changed in life except the ex is no longer here, I've been NC about 11 months now, going on a year but I still remember, its faddding though, almost gone. I've just been reading, excerising, working, going out and generally having fun. Friends and family are a big boast, excerise really helped allot and eatting good food. I'm not really trying to get into a relationship anymore, after my breakup, I tried to force a few but I was not myself and well, it didn't pan out so I guess the best thing I could tell you is, allow yourself time to get better before you throw your hat in the datting pool because a person might not get another shot if they mess up. Good Luck
not_a_happy_camper Posted February 2, 2009 Posted February 2, 2009 well done to everyone here. think all the people in the break up forum should read positive threads like this! the light at the end of the tunnel is not the head lamp of the oncoming train!!!! it is good!!!
Author ate_the_paint Posted February 3, 2009 Author Posted February 3, 2009 well done to everyone here. think all the people in the break up forum should read positive threads like this! the light at the end of the tunnel is not the head lamp of the oncoming train!!!! it is good!!! Haha, that is quotable!
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