Jenny123 Posted February 1, 2009 Posted February 1, 2009 I have a friend, we're close but not one of the besties. Anyhowz she has always been tragic in the love life department, always taking crumbs and letting men do what they want. I'm no expert myself, she takes the biscuit! She has been on/off with my Brother for ten odd years-more off than on. Do think it's been habit. He has been seeing a girl for the last year, who the family adore. He has serious health problems, not working etc and the girl lost her father last year, there is a strain in the relationship. My friend has remained friends with him and is hell bent on getting him back. I know it takes two-he tells her his woes. It is getting me involved as i'm the friend. What annoys me is that she is actually in contact with five ex's who all have girlfriends/wives and doesn't appear bothered flirting or going further with taken men. And takes great glee in slagging the other women off as if she'll win the prize. I'm so annoyed with her moral free attitude, I nearly broke our friendship. I have said nothing, I have enough of my own problems. She generally is a nice girl,just makes bad choices with men. I'm starting to wonder now is she that nice to do what she does?
Author Jenny123 Posted February 1, 2009 Author Posted February 1, 2009 any advice would be appreciated, thanks:)
Trialbyfire Posted February 1, 2009 Posted February 1, 2009 She generally is a nice girl,just makes bad choices with men. I'm starting to wonder now is she that nice to do what she does? No, she's not very nice. When you have a friend who consistently makes poor choices in life, the only constant in each situation is her. You don't owe her friendship, especially since your loyalties are pulled like that. Life's too short for negative influences. State your feelings and suggest that she start making healthy choices in her life. Worse case scenario is that you're going to lose a toxic friend.
Author Jenny123 Posted February 2, 2009 Author Posted February 2, 2009 Thanks for the advice, I am going to stay away from her for awhile. Don't have the energy to talk this through with her, like talking to a brick wall:( Sad as we have been friends for so long. I just don't understand why you would enjoy the demise of someone's relationship or actively take part in it. Not just one but a few relationships with her ex's.
RobotoB Posted February 17, 2009 Posted February 17, 2009 No, she's not very nice. When you have a friend who consistently makes poor choices in life, the only constant in each situation is her. You don't owe her friendship, especially since your loyalties are pulled like that. Life's too short for negative influences. State your feelings and suggest that she start making healthy choices in her life. Worse case scenario is that you're going to lose a toxic friend. Hi,if your friend isn't worth it, you shouldn't want to hang around with her. I want to help. I want to b your friend,as well.
Author Jenny123 Posted February 19, 2009 Author Posted February 19, 2009 I'm not a perfect person myself. Although I don't wish bad on people. I've seen her once, and her man topic hasn't come up since thank goodness! I think she has sensed i'm not happy about it, nor is any of her other friends, from what she has told me in the past. If it does come up, I will be honest and saying i don't want to be involved. Thanks guys;)
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