Trialbyfire Posted February 2, 2009 Posted February 2, 2009 So what have all the ladies learned from their experiences and within this thread? RUUUUUUNNNNNN FROM THE EU!!
Author shadowplay Posted February 2, 2009 Author Posted February 2, 2009 So what have all the ladies learned from their experiences and within this thread? RUUUUUUNNNNNN FROM THE EU!! Word.....................
Author shadowplay Posted February 2, 2009 Author Posted February 2, 2009 Here's a blog post by somebody who seems like an extreme example: http://rohitsrealm.com/archive/2007/12/09/why-emotional-unavailability-does-not-matter/
sunshinegirl Posted February 2, 2009 Posted February 2, 2009 Here's a blog post by somebody who seems like an extreme example: http://rohitsrealm.com/archive/2007/12/09/why-emotional-unavailability-does-not-matter/ This guy is a riot! His emotional intelligence seems to be hovering around, oh, zero. It's like a woman arguing that sex is unnecessary to a successful relationship.
EYECANDY000 Posted February 2, 2009 Posted February 2, 2009 As someone stated earlier about this kind of behavior, I relate to it a lot and I wouldnt consider my self as having autism and self absorbed! just not available to someone......................................... emotionally.. thats all
D-Lish Posted February 2, 2009 Posted February 2, 2009 So what have all the ladies learned from their experiences and within this thread? RUUUUUUNNNNNN FROM THE EU!! TBF- your avi is Trading spaces Carter right? Yeah- he's my type...... Out of my league- but my type...
Trialbyfire Posted February 2, 2009 Posted February 2, 2009 TBF- your avi is Trading spaces Carter right? Yeah- he's my type...... Out of my league- but my type... Yes, it's Carter! Didn't know he was on Trading Spaces. He's got a new show of his own now. As for being out of your league, the only way that would happen is for him to be emotionally unavailable. I think he's still single but I could be wrong.
D-Lish Posted February 2, 2009 Posted February 2, 2009 Yes, it's Carter! Didn't know he was on Trading Spaces. He's got a new show of his own now. As for being out of your league, the only way that would happen is for him to be emotionally unavailable. I think he's still single but I could be wrong. Saw an interview with him in which he says he doesn't like blondes...lol. Yes- he replaced "Ty" as the sexy carpenter on trading Spaces for a season. Also an Abercrombie and Cool Water by Davidoff model I think... He is delicious!
Trialbyfire Posted February 2, 2009 Posted February 2, 2009 Saw an interview with him in which he says he doesn't like blondes...lol. Yes- he replaced "Ty" as the sexy carpenter on trading Spaces for a season. Also an Abercrombie and Cool Water by Davidoff model I think... He is delicious! Oh? How about brunettes? I liked Ty! He was cute and funny. Did he? It wouldn't surprise me. He's got gorgeous angles on his face.
D-Lish Posted February 2, 2009 Posted February 2, 2009 Oh? How about brunettes? I liked Ty! He was cute and funny. Did he? It wouldn't surprise me. He's got gorgeous angles on his face. Oh- he's beautiful. He likes brunettes! Ty has aged badly.... See him now and he isn't so cute! ;-( I know we are off topic, but Carter is my IDEAL!!!! lol. Starting March 1st I am in Van 2x per week- my new job (flying with the airline).... What is the weather like? No idea how to pack... ;-)
Trialbyfire Posted February 2, 2009 Posted February 2, 2009 Oh- he's beautiful. He likes brunettes! Ty has aged badly.... See him now and he isn't so cute! ;-( I know we are off topic, but Carter is my IDEAL!!!! lol. Starting March 1st I am in Van 2x per week- my new job (flying with the airline).... What is the weather like? No idea how to pack... ;-) Let's move to OT.
zenith Posted February 2, 2009 Posted February 2, 2009 Have you ever dated or known somebody who seems emotionally flat? They rarely show strong emotions, negative or positive. They almost seem invulnerable. Often they coat over their emotional emptiness with a laid back, cheerful demeanor. Anger may be the only emotional display you ever get from them. They often report a lack of deep emotions, and tend to complain of an "empty" feeling inside. On very rare occasions they may suddenly display a strong emotion that makes you hope you've finally poked a hole in the wall. Those "cathartic" moments rarely lead anywhere but keep you coming back for more. Some people use the term "emotionally unavailable" to describe those who have walls up that eventually come down when they trust somebody. I think of it more as people who are strangers even to themselves, who can never truly open up because they don't have access to their own underlying emotions. Whether or not those emotions even exist is unclear in some cases. That sort of sounds like.... me...
Viking Posted February 2, 2009 Posted February 2, 2009 So that changes for a lot of men later in life? I thought by 25 most guys were ready for LTRs. As a guy, I can confidently state that there isn't necessarily a specific time that we're "ready" for LTRs... Personally, I'm having a debate with what I want to do when I'm done with school (I'm 23 and going to graduate in the spring with 2 degrees ). Military, real job, travel, LTRs, etc are all weighing on my mind. I'd say that personally I want to marry no later than 26, but you can't force things. I'm enjoying being single, but still am on the lookout. Someone's "ready" is another person's not-so-ready...
endangeredreams Posted February 2, 2009 Posted February 2, 2009 My boyfriend GETS like this, but I think it is more the influance of being in the military enviroment for years then any innate quality. he is very good at sharing emotions most of the time. randomly he shuts down, even to himself. It's scary.
bhweller Posted February 2, 2009 Posted February 2, 2009 I have a relative that is like this. His mother was terminally ill when he was a teenager and his father became an alchoholic because of it. I don't know if he was emotional before all that but he sure hasn't been for his entire adult life. He is now on his FIFTH WIFE. Most of the women he attracts are as shallow as he is and I don't really feel bad for them. He mostly attracts women with his aloof attitude and displays of wealth. He is not really a charmer or casanova. But he is a challenge and he has money. Eventually they realize that the whole relationship does not amount to a hill of beans but not until a couple years have been wasted trying to get blood from a stone.
movingonandon Posted February 2, 2009 Posted February 2, 2009 Well, let's put it another way: why is being so 'emotional' is so important to begin with??? If somebody cares about you, listens and emphatizes with your concerns, shares his own, what more do you want? Life is lonely no matter who you're with, and to believe otherwise is a set up for a huge disapointment. Basically, everybody is responsible for their own feelings and i don't see why choosing to be aloof for the most part is such a bad thing. Moreover, it is a huge misconception that aloof equals to unkind and uncaring.
fral945 Posted February 2, 2009 Posted February 2, 2009 It's ironic because I find this personality type highly disturbing/distressing, yet have chosen to put myself in close quarters with it. At the same time I'm also fascinated by people like this because they're so different from me. I almost admire their lack of vulnerability. Opposites attract. I agree with movingonandon. I tend to be pretty stoic and not very open, probably what some would consider aloof. Even if I have certain strong feelings, I don't always express them and am not always open about them. I don't feel my life should be completed dominated by my feelings. I also don't feel the need to burden a woman with my negative feelings. Ironically, I seem to attract women that I consider overly emotional and have no problem expressing their feelings.
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