moonbeam125 Posted February 1, 2009 Posted February 1, 2009 I've been getting my knickers in a knot over this, so perhaps one of you can enlighten me on the situation. I'm 24 and the guy is 19...we didn't talk much in the past (no classes together) until recently one situation seemed to really stick out. We were waiting for the bus together and he asked me a whole bunch of questions, but asking a lot of questions is in his nature, so I thought nothing of it...he also makes a lot of non sequitur comments. But then we got onto the topic of relationships and he said something about proximity being a cause for liking someone. He even asked me why I think he asks so many questions. We got on the bus and he asked me if I like non sequiturs because "most girls don't seem to" and "I ask a lot of questions, that's what going on a date with me would be like." I then said, "Well, would you date be able to ask you questions?" He pauses and replies, "Of course she would, why wouldn't she?" By the end of the ride he asked me for my number, but he never ended up calling. I left class before he did last week and he sent me a few non sequitur text messages. The thing is, despite the age difference, I'm really starting to like him...in fact, being around him makes me feel all warm inside, but in your opinion, do you think he's just not interested? My impression was he seemed to be dropping some hints, but not calling me after he got my number makes me think maybe he's just not interested in old meat.
I'm Joe Posted February 1, 2009 Posted February 1, 2009 Being 24 myself, I would have no problem dating a 19 year old. I realize the different stigma me being a man and you being a woman, however at 19 I can definitely say I was mature enough to date someone 5 years my senior. give him the benefit of the doubt and see how he turns out.... go out and get to know him.... He may not be all that mature though... since he asks a lot of questions he must not know very much........... (^^^^Do you see the Non Sequitur there? I'm a comic genius) Also never refer to 24 as old meat, My arthritis acts up when I hear that.
Geishawhelk Posted February 1, 2009 Posted February 1, 2009 I'm really not trying to cast aspertions but it's possible he has a slight obsessive endency to his personality. It's all very well asking lots of questions and making non-sequitur comments, but I knew a young man like this who was eventually diagnosed as having a mild mania. The English suffix -mania denotes an obsession with something; a mania. The suffix is used in some medical terms denoting mental disorders. It has also entered standard English and is affixed to many different words to denote enthusiasm or obsession with that subject He sounds like a friendly and enthusiastic young man, one who possibly may be striving to battle a personal hurdle such as shyness, or low self-esteem. I see no reason, with regard to the age gap, why this should be problematic. I'm 5 years older than my partner (I'm female) and my grandmother was 11 years older than my grandfather. In that day and age, that was far morw of an issue than it is now, and I don't see it should be a problem at all. but as to his temperament.... be vigilant. That's all.....
Trialbyfire Posted February 1, 2009 Posted February 1, 2009 He might be waiting the three or more days to call, which is one of those silly dating rules. How many days has it been?
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