FIREMAN Posted February 1, 2009 Posted February 1, 2009 I've posted in other areas, but every response I got said dump my GF and none of them answered my ques. My GF blew me off for her Girls 2 wks ago. Happens a lot. I got mad, we both said things and hung up. I didn't bother calling her and she called me 2 days l8r. Over the past 2 wks, she's called several tx's and we tlk as if nothing happened, but haven't said "I love you" anymore, only end with TTYL. She called all excited for my promotion last week and said we should go celebrate. I got the flu next day and didn't call her. She called the next day and wanted to bring me homemade Choc Chip cookies, but when she heard I was ill, she said she'd make em on the wknd. She called the next day (Wed) to see how I was and we tlkd again. I called her the next day and asked her to go to a S-Bowl party on Sun. She called back Friday and said she was going to her bro's to watch the game and see her new nephew that was born a week ago. I didn't hear from her at all today and no cookies yet... Is she playing games? Does she want to get together or is she legitimately going to her bros? I can't tell what she wants. She's been really flirty and sweet all week w\me, but now the wknd's here and I don't hear from her... Any ideas? PS-The reason I was mad 2 wks ago is that she keeps blowing me off on the weekends for her new girlfriends. I had a right to be mad.
Posco_Proudfoot Posted February 1, 2009 Posted February 1, 2009 I've posted in other areas, but every response I got said dump my GF and none of them answered my ques. My GF blew me off for her Girls 2 wks ago. Happens a lot. I got mad, we both said things and hung up. I didn't bother calling her and she called me 2 days l8r. Over the past 2 wks, she's called several tx's and we tlk as if nothing happened, but haven't said "I love you" anymore, only end with TTYL. She called all excited for my promotion last week and said we should go celebrate. I got the flu next day and didn't call her. She called the next day and wanted to bring me homemade Choc Chip cookies, but when she heard I was ill, she said she'd make em on the wknd. She called the next day (Wed) to see how I was and we tlkd again. I called her the next day and asked her to go to a S-Bowl party on Sun. She called back Friday and said she was going to her bro's to watch the game and see her new nephew that was born a week ago. I didn't hear from her at all today and no cookies yet... Is she playing games? Does she want to get together or is she legitimately going to her bros? I can't tell what she wants. She's been really flirty and sweet all week w\me, but now the wknd's here and I don't hear from her... Any ideas? PS-The reason I was mad 2 wks ago is that she keeps blowing me off on the weekends for her new girlfriends. I had a right to be mad. Seems like she is spending more time with friends than with you. Maybe you're the weekday emotional pillow right now. Can't say if or why should lie, I don't know if that is a habit she has. But it seems she would want to spend the time with you at a party if you was interested. I'd start thinking about getting out of this if I was you. Only she can straighten up. She seems to be sending confusing signals. If you're mad at her when she does this, and she does it anyway, then maybe it is time to go your separate ways.
Author FIREMAN Posted February 1, 2009 Author Posted February 1, 2009 We both still Love each other and are IN Love w\eachother. I attempted to break it off 2 weeks ago after the argument about her blowing me off. She said then that she's been avoiding me, mainly on the wknds cause she's not feeling intimate l8ly. (Says she doesn't know why but Thinks she's going thru early menopause or it's her pill or maybe just not attracted any more). Since then, she's been very loving to me on the phone. From her demeanor this past week, I get the feeling she wants to get together. I haven't asked her to get together to talk, cause I don't want to be blown off again. So, we're at a standstill. I asked her to go to the party cause I asked her a month ago. I don't know if she accepted to go to her bros since we weren't talking, because she wants to see the baby or what... PS- She doesn't have a close rel w\her bro and takes any opportunity to go to his place when asked. She could've asked me to go, but under the current circumstance, maybe she didn't cause she feels awkward right now. I don't know...
Posco_Proudfoot Posted February 1, 2009 Posted February 1, 2009 I think I'd leave her alone and go do your own thing. It seems the only person making things awkward is her. She seems to think you'll wait around while she figures things out. It is up to you, but she is not treating things right. It is up to you to decide how much you're willing to put up with.
Author FIREMAN Posted February 1, 2009 Author Posted February 1, 2009 She also said that she's felt awkward for the past 5-6 months since an argument we had back then. Wish she would've said something then. I'd like to talk about it and work it out, but she needs to be WILLING to make an effort and also explain to me WHAT's REALLY bothering her. Otherwise we're never going to resolve it and it's over. We're both tired of "talking". Lately it's every other time we're together. We state we're gonna try to be better together and it's me that tries, not her. Then we argue again...I cut contact and she comes running back. Viscous cycle.
lonelygurl Posted February 1, 2009 Posted February 1, 2009 I didn't bother calling her and she called me 2 days l8r. You guys had a fight and you didn't call her, but she calls you. Over the past 2 wks, she's called several tx's. She continues to call you, but you don't call her. [/FONT][/COLOR] She called all excited for my promotion last week and said we should go celebrate. She calls you again...happy for you about a promotion. I got the flu next day and didn't call her. You don't call her yet again! She called the next day and wanted to bring me homemade Choc Chip cookies, but when she heard I was ill, she said she'd make em on the wknd. She calls you....yet again! says she will wait because you are ill. She called the next day (Wed) to see how I was and we tlkd again. and again she calls you!!! and cares because you are ill. I called her the next day and asked her to go to a S-Bowl party on Sun. You call her for a second time after how many of her times???? She called back Friday and said she was going to her bro's to watch the game and see her new nephew that was born a week ago. She calls you to tell you she wants to spend time with family and with a newborn baby and you're put out??? I didn't hear from her at all today and no cookies yet... You have only called her twice compared to her about dozen or more calls and your put out??? Is she playing games? Does she want to get together or is she legitimately going to her bros? I don't think she is playing games at all. But she may be growing tired of putting effort into something that isn't getting much return. Women can grow tired of always trying. I don't want to sound cruel, but from the way your post comes across to me. She has been putting in all kinds of effort by the way you write. You said yourself she was constantly calling and texting you, but you only intitated two of the phone calls. Personally, I would take that as being a guy that isn't all that interested in me. I can understand that you feel hurt about her g/f's. But friends are important. Does she spend quality time with you?? I made the mistake of letting my friends go with my X due to his jealousy and I won't let it happen again. Sometimes in relationships some partners feel the other partner should let their friends go. As relationships grow we start making more demands and that isn't right either. I know you mentioned something about the weekends so I don't know how that goes for you and her???
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