RcBunnys2 Posted February 1, 2009 Posted February 1, 2009 Last month my ex and I broke up. He was my first real boyfriend and we lasted just over five months. That might not seem very long but to us it was. I was his first real girlfriend, the first girl who he brought to meet his parent. I even lost my virginity to him. When we broke up it was very out of the blue. He texted me one morning, very random, and ended it. I later found out it was because he was in a tough spot in his life (he had moved out on his own for the first time to a new town a few months before and had a new job and everything) and didn't really understand himself why he dumped me. He said he needed to get himself together. I told him I wouldn't wait around and that I would date other guys, which i did. The ex and I didn't talk for a couple weeks then decided to try being friends. About a month after the break up, i was currently dating a guy, my ex and I were hanging out at his house in his room. It was the first time we had been alone together since the break up (when we hung out friends were always around). We started talking about us and then were suddenly kissing. We told eachother how much we missed eachother. After that, I broke up with the guy I was seeing (who was a very sweet guy) and got back with my ex. We were amazingly happy for the next week together. By the end of the week I started to notice a couple little things that made our relationship shaky the first time we were together. I didn't want to go down the same path, so I told him they needed to go. It ended up starting a huge fight and we broke up. Later I realized my mistake and tried to apologize but he had thought about how the relationship wouldn't work the second time around. He told me he doesn't like "telling people" he "has a girlfriend" like I would be some sort of burden to his independance. I tried to tell him that is the last thing I want to do but he just settled on telling me he is confused. I am in love with him and don't know what I can do. Did I mess up my second chance completely? What should I do?
lonelygurl Posted February 1, 2009 Posted February 1, 2009 In all honesty, in doesn't sound like you are suited for each other. I don't mean to sound cruel, but if there were things that were bothering you (making it shaky) and then you told him and he went off....that isn't really a good thing. A relationship shouldn't be like that and then for him to say he doesn't want a girlfriend. Why do you want to chase after someone who wants to act so aloof and some what uncaring. Of course he was all interested and nicey nice when you had a new boyfriend, and once you dumped him, he just resorted back to his usual self. Save yourself from months to years of heartache and rid yourself of him now and continue to date other people.
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