GoneButNotForgotten Posted January 31, 2009 Posted January 31, 2009 Been broken up with the ex for somewhere just short of 2 months. It was a 3 1/2 year relationship. I still think about her but don't really care about it at this point. I know for a fact I'm not completely over her. How long are you really supposed to wait before going out and testing the waters with other women? Don't get me wrong. I'm not waiting for her to come back to me. I just don't want to jump into something and waste a girls time. But at the same time I really don't care much for feeling sorry for myself or anything like that. I don't do the wounded puppy thing well. I don't want someone to nurture me back to health. I want something challenging and fun. But is that the wrong reason to start looking again?
infophreak Posted February 7, 2009 Posted February 7, 2009 The advice I've seen is twice the length of the relationship before you can start a new one... that would be 6 year! I'd say it is when you think you are ready, first I'd go out and just have fun, meet tons of new women... any where and everywhere... Maybe you'll find one that you can't live without and you'll deal with your issues right away or with her (in part).
stepka Posted February 7, 2009 Posted February 7, 2009 Well I'm derned if I'm going to wait until I'm 95 to start dating again. My husband dropped a bomb a couple of days after Christmas and I'm already cautiously dipping my toe back in--I have a date to go to the symphony on Sunday--something nice and safe and public. We were married 23 years. I'm probably goofy for even thinking about this right now, but since it's 100% definitely going to end in divorce, why should I lay around crying? That said, I probably won't be jumping into bed with anyone anytime soon--I'm too gun-shy about that at my age and gotta lose some pounds first.
D-Lish Posted February 7, 2009 Posted February 7, 2009 The advice I've seen is twice the length of the relationship before you can start a new one... that would be 6 year! I'd say it is when you think you are ready, first I'd go out and just have fun, meet tons of new women... any where and everywhere... Maybe you'll find one that you can't live without and you'll deal with your issues right away or with her (in part). A good rule of thumb is actually half the time of the relationship- so a year and a half... Date when you feel ready- if you meet someone that sparks your interest, go on a date. Dating can be fun- and it doesn't have to lead to anything serious.
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