Crestfallen_KH Posted January 31, 2009 Posted January 31, 2009 Well, I finally did it. I finally broke up with my on-again, off-again bf of the last 13 months. I finally reached my breaking point. It was never smooth, full of negativity and frustration, and fostered my cynical beliefs about relationships. When my ex-husband left me for another woman, I was devastated. After my divorce was finalized, I met him and we quickly entered into a relationship. My self-esteem was at rock bottom, and I was so unbelievably devastated and broken. But, I haven't been broken for awhile; I've just been in a broken relationship. I was his cheerleader, his emotional support. I helped him get a job in this economy, put aside my needs and wants to focus on his bad day, and bought him things when times were tough. I certainly wasn't perfect. But I made so many poor, co-dependent decisions because it felt so nice to have someone to care for again. But now, I need to go back to caring for myself. My needs should come first and I need to be my own cheerleader again. It got nasty, which I didn't want. But he wants to wallow in his unhappiness and misery and I don't want to sit there beside him as he does it anymore. So here I sit, happily, enjoying a mug of green tea with myself on a Friday evening. I'm alone, but happy. I'm single, but encouraged about relationships again. I'm free - just me and my green tea.
Goatsbreath Posted January 31, 2009 Posted January 31, 2009 green tea ha, its good when you can hang onto it and be happy with it....like, its enough right now. Its warm and its comforting for you I can tell.....green tea
Author Crestfallen_KH Posted January 31, 2009 Author Posted January 31, 2009 Exactly. Right now, it's enough... Simple pleasures, simple comforts.
Island Girl Posted January 31, 2009 Posted January 31, 2009 Should always be. Simple comforts indulged. Long hot baths with NO disturbances. Green tea, time to sit and read in PEACE, ahhhh I get it. *smile -sigh*
Trialbyfire Posted January 31, 2009 Posted January 31, 2009 Don't forget to put on that facial mask at night, before you go to sleep. Being single and drama-free is a blessing after something negative and volatile. Relax and enjoy. Don't forget to sprawl over your entire bed tonight, when you sleep!
Dumbledore Posted January 31, 2009 Posted January 31, 2009 When you're single, you're totally alone in this world. Soon it will get lonely, and you will pine for your own family, and for some sense of belonging. Your life will seem meaningless. In your desperation, you will take the best option from a dwindling number of unthinkable choices. If drinking tea takes the edge off your impending gloom, then go for it. It can't hurt.
burning 4 revenge Posted January 31, 2009 Posted January 31, 2009 When you're single, you're totally alone in this world. Soon it will get lonely, and you will pine for your own family, and for some sense of belonging. Your life will seem meaningless. In your desperation, you will take the best option from a dwindling number of unthinkable choices. If drinking tea takes the edge off your impending gloom, then go for it. It can't hurt. Holy sh*t that was the best post Ive ever read
Dumbledore Posted January 31, 2009 Posted January 31, 2009 Holy sh*t that was the best post Ive ever read You need to click around more. Unless you're being sarcastic, in which case I heartily agree. BTW, you rule.
burning 4 revenge Posted January 31, 2009 Posted January 31, 2009 You need to click around more. Unless you're being sarcastic, in which case I heartily agree. BTW, you rule. no no that post resonated with me....maybe not for others.... i think you and i understand each other better than most...
Dumbledore Posted January 31, 2009 Posted January 31, 2009 no no that post resonated with me....maybe not for others.... i think you and i understand each other better than most... We are like twins separated at birth.
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