chris250 Posted January 31, 2009 Posted January 31, 2009 Well I got back from my date about an hour ago. I had a good time. I'm estimating that she gave me a B- on my report card for interest level. What do I mean by that? Well she tapped my arm once for 1/2 a second. She also tapped my hand once for 1/2 a second. It took us about 10 minutes to order our food. It took them 25 minutes to cook it. Then we ate for a good 30 minutes. Talked for 15 minutes after that. We talked about movies, super-bowl, how I want to get better at bowling, asked her about her family, what her parents do for a living, how many siblings she has, has she ever traveled outside the US, etc. So the date lasted a good 80 minutes. I ended the date while the conversation was on a high note. I made her laugh and then told her I needed to get going. I walked her to her car, shook her hand and smiled and said "Thank you for the fun time. Drive carefully." She smiled and thanked me too. After that I walked back to my car. It's always important to end the date when the conversation is on a high note. I didn't want to wait until it got dull and boring and where we had dead silence that lasts more than 10 seconds. When I asked for her phone number 2 weeks ago I made it a point to ask her while I was making her laugh at the same time. When she's laughing is the best time to catch her off guard and ask "by the way what's your phone number?" So now that the date is over. The next challenge is to figure out whether or not I should ask her out for a 2nd date and if so when would be a good time to call? How long should I wait to call again to ask for a 2nd date? I waited 4 days to call the first time.
Star Gazer Posted January 31, 2009 Posted January 31, 2009 So the date lasted a good 80 minutes. I ended the date while the conversation was on a high note. It's always important to end the date when the conversation is on a high note. I didn't want to wait until it got dull and boring and where we had dead silence that lasts more than 10 seconds. A date isn't a bag of microwave popcorn. I would have stayed longer, particularly for a dinner date. If anything, THAT's where the "-" in your B grade came from. I'm curious though, why didn't you rate yourself higher??? Call her tomorrow or Sunday. Don't play games.
Lucky555 Posted January 31, 2009 Posted January 31, 2009 I agree don't play games. Be yourself. Have a good time and enjoy being with the person. Seems like you went and analyzed this a lot. Relax.
kashmir Posted January 31, 2009 Posted January 31, 2009 It's always important to end the date when the conversation is on a high note. I didn't want to wait until it got dull and boring and where we had dead silence that lasts more than 10 seconds. I wouldn't worry about it. As Uma Thurman said in Pulp Fiction, "That's when you know you've found somebody special. When you can just shut the **** up for a minute and comfortably enjoy the silence. "
Star Gazer Posted January 31, 2009 Posted January 31, 2009 I wouldn't worry about it. As Uma Thurman said in Pulp Fiction, "That's when you know you've found somebody special. When you can just shut the **** up for a minute and comfortably enjoy the silence. " That is so true!
zenith Posted January 31, 2009 Posted January 31, 2009 B-??? WTF??? why do you care so much about what she thinks of you? just be confident, man. Tell me, what did SHE get? what grade would you give HER? FFS, stop devaluing yourself.
Geishawhelk Posted January 31, 2009 Posted January 31, 2009 "D- for warmth, F for spontaneity. Should try harder. Chris seems to believe that everything in life is clinically assessed on a scale of 1 - 10 or A - F. It's a pity he doesn't devote more time instead to cultivating his temperament, and character, and permit some genuine warmth and sponatanety to rise to the surface once in a while. I'm very much afraid that unless Chris gives his perception a radical overhaul, he will debate too fully before taking each step, and spend his entire life on one leg." ....Is what my report card for him would read.
39388 Posted January 31, 2009 Posted January 31, 2009 chris250 you're an idiot and your religion is complete garbage. Hey you get more dates than me so you must be doing something right. Must be some stupid women out there.
Author chris250 Posted January 31, 2009 Author Posted January 31, 2009 chris250 you're an idiot and your religion is complete garbage. Hey you get more dates than me so you must be doing something right. Must be some stupid women out there. God still loves you anyway. You'll be in heaven with the rest of us. God doesn't see you as garbage.
Author chris250 Posted January 31, 2009 Author Posted January 31, 2009 By the way when I say a B- that's a pretty optimistic estimate. It's certainly no higher than a B-. It could be lower than that. I spent a good part of the night thinking about prospects for a 2nd date. I hardly got any sleep as a result. I decided that I would not sleep until I came to a decision. I've decided that it's not worth risking a 2nd date especially when the first date was a B- at the very best. The first date should always be an A+ before a man should even consider a 2nd date. Today I'm doing a google search for friends with benefits websites. I'll see what I can come up with.
dreamergrl Posted January 31, 2009 Posted January 31, 2009 Well I got back from my date about an hour ago. I had a good time. I'm estimating that she gave me a B- on my report card for interest level. Hmmm Do these grades get you into Harvard? What do I mean by that? Well she tapped my arm once for 1/2 a second. She also tapped my hand once for 1/2 a second. Wow a half a second!?!?!?! It took us about 10 minutes to order our food. It took them 25 minutes to cook it. Then we ate for a good 30 minutes. Talked for 15 minutes after that. No half seconds here? We talked about movies, super-bowl, how I want to get better at bowling, asked her about her family, what her parents do for a living, how many siblings she has, has she ever traveled outside the US, etc. Did you talk about your theories you discuss here? Let her know that she will be one of the many girls you plan on dating since you don't want to get attached to anyone? So the date lasted a good 80 minutes. I ended the date while the conversation was on a high note. I made her laugh and then told her I needed to get going. I walked her to her car, shook her hand and smiled and said "Thank you for the fun time. Drive carefully." She smiled and thanked me too. After that I walked back to my car. It's always important to end the date when the conversation is on a high note. I didn't want to wait until it got dull and boring and where we had dead silence that lasts more than 10 seconds. Not true, I would have wondered why it ended so soon if things where going well. And ten seconds of dead time isn't bad. People do need time to swallow information. So now that the date is over. The next challenge is to figure out whether or not I should ask her out for a 2nd date and if so when would be a good time to call? How long should I wait to call again to ask for a 2nd date? I waited 4 days to call the first time. I thought you didn't want advice from people in these forums because we didn't agree with your previous threads?
39388 Posted January 31, 2009 Posted January 31, 2009 God still loves you anyway. You'll be in heaven with the rest of us. God doesn't see you as garbage. Women see me as garbage and do doubt god sees me as garbage.
likestolaugh Posted January 31, 2009 Posted January 31, 2009 By the way when I say a B- that's a pretty optimistic estimate. It's certainly no higher than a B-. It could be lower than that. I spent a good part of the night thinking about prospects for a 2nd date. I hardly got any sleep as a result. I decided that I would not sleep until I came to a decision. I've decided that it's not worth risking a 2nd date especially when the first date was a B- at the very best. The first date should always be an A+ before a man should even consider a 2nd date. Today I'm doing a google search for friends with benefits websites. I'll see what I can come up with. ummm.. what? What's the harm in trying to get a second date? Do you not like her? What a strange fellow you are... Women see me as garbage and do doubt god sees me as garbage. you and Chris should just date each other.
39388 Posted January 31, 2009 Posted January 31, 2009 you and Chris should just date each other. You are another dumb player. I'm sick and tried of idiots making up I'm gay since I haven't had any success in dating women yet. That is a bold faced lie and makes me really angry.
kdark Posted January 31, 2009 Posted January 31, 2009 Did i miss something? Why is everyone angry in this thread?
dreamergrl Posted January 31, 2009 Posted January 31, 2009 Did i miss something? Why is everyone angry in this thread? Look at the previous three threads started by OP, you'll understand
confused_2008 Posted January 31, 2009 Posted January 31, 2009 Look at the previous three threads started by OP, you'll understand Combine that with 39388 being so far into his own head with analyzing things and you have a toxic combination resulting in threads like this.
RRyan65 Posted January 31, 2009 Posted January 31, 2009 OP, you suck at dating. If you EVER find yourself in a serious relationship again, you are going to be with the most uninteresting person I KNOW, at least. No wonder you're so good at determining when a woman is starting to lose interest in you. I'm pretty sure it happens quite often. Don't worry, this is just God testing you like he tested Job. LMFAO!
likestolaugh Posted January 31, 2009 Posted January 31, 2009 You are another dumb player. I'm sick and tried of idiots making up I'm gay since I haven't had any success in dating women yet. That is a bold faced lie and makes me really angry. perhaps you can't tell... but I was being sarcastic. More to the point is that you need to stop posting on a net forum and get real help in the form of a therapist. We can't help you properly here, since you want to be connected in the real world, but the internet... by it's very nature is a tool that is disconnecting. I might say the same for the OP as well...
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