monkophile Posted January 31, 2009 Posted January 31, 2009 There’s this guy I’ve known for five years; we’ve been good friends for about 2 1/2 to 3 years and we’ve been flirting a lot since over the summer. The last time we saw each other I was home for Christmas and we really flirted; one time he was leaning forward on the table, stopped talking and just gazed into my eyes for several seconds. He finally broke it, looked down, and had an embarrassed-looking smile on his face. Other flirting techniques he’s done is always looking at me in the eyes when we talk, smiling and laughing a lot, blushing, teasing and calling me names. But ever since we met that day I have tried emailing and calling him a few times; just keeping in touch. But he’s ignoring me. He’s either playing hard to get and really likes me, is scared/indecisive or I’m just boosting his ego. He’s around 50 (he’s my former college prof in my major; I’ve since graduated; he's not married and doesn't have a gf), so he should be mature enough to not play any games that young guys play, so I don’t really know what’s going on. I’m going to wait to call him in about three weeks; just to give him some space and “ignore” him back and figure out what’s going on, but please help me - what do you think he’s doing. And if he is scared, guys what makes you scared when you like a girl?
allina Posted January 31, 2009 Posted January 31, 2009 I do not think that a 50 year old man is scared because he likes a girl. While he may have enjoyed flirting he's probably uncomfortable taking things too far with someone who was once his student, and doesn't want to take things further.
prettybaby Posted January 31, 2009 Posted January 31, 2009 I could be wrong, but it's not looking good. Guys don't ignore a girl they're interested in; unless he's suddenly dealing with some major tragedy that is keeping him away from his computer and phone ... not very likely. I would give it space. How long ago since you two were student-teacher? It may still be too fresh in his mind; which is making him very uncomfortable and unsure about the whole situation. And when was his last relationship anyway?
I'm Joe Posted January 31, 2009 Posted January 31, 2009 Here is what it could be... Keep in mind this is just an Idea... Sometimes a little thing I like to call "boner rage" takes over your mind and body when your a man and you start behaving in ways against your better judgment. this happens to me sometimes, in my case I'm trying to abstain from sex totally, but I willoccasionally find myself setting my sights on someone. I can be charming when I turn on the juice. I usually snap out of it around the time when I realize that what I'm doing is about to lead to sex. or at least somewhere I don't want to be. This could have happened to this guy he was your professor, He is older and I'm sure the Idea of being with someone young and beautiful is more than just an appealing thought to him...but if my scenario is right, ultimately there will be some reason he doesn't want to be with you.. so what could've happened was his "boner rage" kicked in and he turned on the charm, totally ignoring the consequences, and maybe even in part to prove to himself that he could get a young woman if he wanted. now that he has had time to let himself calm down he is thinking clearly and is regretting what he did......... Not that there is anything wrong with you, I have no doubt that your quite a catch.... but if I'm right he has some reason why you two can't be together. The good news is that this is one of many possibilities. so don't take it too much to heart.
Author monkophile Posted January 31, 2009 Author Posted January 31, 2009 prettybaby - I graduated over two years ago; it will be three this May, so it hasn't been that long ago.
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