Mab Posted January 31, 2009 Posted January 31, 2009 I'm 23 and have only had one relationship, when I was a college freshman. Before this I was very comfortable dating people, but this boyfriend wanted to break up and couldn't bring himself to tell me, so he treated me coldly for months hoping that I would break up with him. I'm wondering if that, and various other things he did during the relationship, has now made me afraid to date. I'm in theatre, so it's hard to meet men, but when I've had the opportunity I either become terrified, become the guy's friend, or lose interest quickly. I also do not feel sexy anymore. I used to be self-conscious but at least feel attractive. Now I feel very tomboyish and unattractive, and I'm wondering if it's due to being alone so long. Does anyone else have a similar problem?
unacceptable62 Posted January 31, 2009 Posted January 31, 2009 Do you hang out with both genders doing group stuff outside of theater/school? That is a good place to hang out and gain a little confidence. I would try to look for those types of things for a little bit, then see if you can find someone that you are comfortable around. It's all about baby steps to build your confidence back up.
Island Girl Posted January 31, 2009 Posted January 31, 2009 He probably did a number on your self esteem. I understand that you are outgoing being in theater but that doesn't mean that he didn't beat up your mental image of yourself. As someone said above - it is small steps. Do you do things for yourself that make you feel good - that make you feel sexy? For me, long hot bubble baths and then intensive girl time like body lotion time, a pedicure, and a deep cleaning facial mask can do wonders. Maybe there are ways that you can pamper yourself so that you can stimulate the beautiful you within...?
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