smile_through_tears Posted January 31, 2009 Posted January 31, 2009 So I wrote a post in here about how my ex writes to me on facebook and sometimes I reply sometimes I don't...he broke up with me by the way and treated me heartlessly by telling me he "cared so much" but yet didnt even care at all when i was crying and heartbroken..instead he told his life was good without me......who the fu** says that to someone whos crying their heart out in front of you??? so i left him alone after that and then he writes to me on facebook...casual stuff mostly... today he writes me a paragraph talking bout something so irrelavant.... its a weird feeling when i see his messages...like joy/anger at the same time...on one side I LOVE HIM AND I MISS HIM and i wish he would go back to being the same person and want me back...but im not dumb, i know these messages do not mean that...im cluless to what they mean, i think he just feels like a jerk for hurting me and wants to releive his guilt...on the other side i get so angry when i get them esp. when he sends me that "how is everything going messages" HOW DO U THINK ITS GOING? YOU LEFT ME HEARTBROKEN AND IM PICKING MYSELF UP...it gets me so angry i almost want to write back saying "you got some nerve, if you truly cared about how im doing a freaking phone call would not cut your damn fingers..or a sincere apology would not bite your toungue....." but instead i reply...good busy, you? and he writes busy same just working...and thats it....\ is that reallyyyyyyyy him caring and being my friend??my friends say "what? he just wants to see how you're doing" they frustrate me so much when they say that.........i dont want him to stop writing to me but i want them to be more personalized.......damn it, i swear HEARTBREAK is the WORST feeling I ever experienced...it comes with toooooo much baggage...too many emotions....loss, guilt, confusion, need for closure, anger, and on and on...
citizen67 Posted January 31, 2009 Posted January 31, 2009 facebook/texting/email - always respond "I am doing really Great - thanks for asking : )" and don't ask how he is.
lonelygurl Posted February 1, 2009 Posted February 1, 2009 the best thing you can do is ignore him, don't respond and take him off your friends list and block him. That is if you really want to heal and get over him.
Lucky555 Posted February 1, 2009 Posted February 1, 2009 i am in a very confused state just like you are. I respond to him ect and its like i am pretending that i am ok with everything between him and I. BUT I AM NOT OK. I too miss him, I broke it off due to his ex being in the picture. I don't know how to go about this either. I feel the same way. I don't want to have him stop initiating but i wish he was more personalized also. I was thinking maybe he is trying to feel his way around to see how he could wiggle his way back in my life. Lately he has been trying to be flirty....he went from very simple, to casual, to flirting. I DONT UNDERSTAND. I don't want to get hurt again by him so I'm just keeping it casual being myself and still moving on at the same time. I tell myself over and over don't expect anything just let it be and enjoy life.
Geishawhelk Posted February 1, 2009 Posted February 1, 2009 DON'T ever GO ON FACEBOOK ANY MORE!! Forget your account, forget him, don't check, don't read, don't ever even go there!!!! Why bother? This is ridiculous! keep right away from it all, and just forget the damn site even exists! people functioned perfectly well without it before - and nothing's changed, so stop going there!! SORTED!!
Lucky555 Posted February 1, 2009 Posted February 1, 2009 DON'T ever GO ON FACEBOOK ANY MORE!! Forget your account, forget him, don't check, don't read, don't ever even go there!!!! Why bother? This is ridiculous! keep right away from it all, and just forget the damn site even exists! people functioned perfectly well without it before - and nothing's changed, so stop going there!! SORTED!! This is a good suggestion. I am in the same situation it feels like. I will just stop responding to the guy. If he wants to state his intentions that is one thing but to just bounce back in like everything is fine is not right at all. I think this is good advise for both of us.
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