lucky555 has one last issue

[Lucky555]

MY ex. I still have feelings for him. I broke it off with him and now hes "chatting with me or at least attempting to" still. I thought not to respond but he was nice so i was nice to him.

 

 

He has been out of a LTR for 3 years now.

During the 3 years here is what happened.

We started seeing each other for 5 months..he wouldn't commit.

I stopped talking to him for 4 months.

We started seeing each other gain for 6 months..he wouldn't commit.

9 months have gone by and hes back again.

This time is different. I'm keep him very distanced from me. Hes contacting me and I am responding with casual conversation.

 

I don't need another heartbreak. He recently told me of his ex causing him problems and I told him HE ALLOWS IT because he is accepting her calls ect. right after this he deleted her from his online accounts (facebook ect)

 

Now he is still casually contacting me. He has attempted to flirt with me but I am too shaken from the previous times he "couldn't commit himself"

 

I have to own up to my feelings. I am not crazy about him and i can move on ect. BUT we connect and have a lot of things in common.

 

What do I do here?

 

Do i keep responding to his casual messages? (wait and see)

 

Do i stop talking to him completely.

 

I feel as though I have to do something about this.

[dreamergrl]

Lucky, don't take this the wrong way, but from reading all your different threads, I think it's time to take a few steps back from dating. Figure out what you want.

 

With your thread about the new guy, perhaps you are seeing "flags" because you are unsure of what you want. You could be putting up flags for him, as a reason not to date him, which would be a sign that it's time to sort out all the feelings you have inside.

[Lucky555]

Lucky, don't take this the wrong way, but from reading all your different threads, I think it's time to take a few steps back from dating. Figure out what you want.

 

With your thread about the new guy, perhaps you are seeing "flags" because you are unsure of what you want. You could be putting up flags for him, as a reason not to date him, which would be a sign that it's time to sort out all the feelings you have inside.

 

 

I know what i want from a relationship.

 

I am willing to get out there and meet and date ect. I will still continue to do this.

Now if i still have feelings for the ex should I keep him in the picture to see where it goes.

 

I won't get attached to anyone till I know we are on the same page.

 

If a guy I happen to meet has those qualities for a relationship I will give it a shot.

 

This new guy I don't know him and I really do want to get to know him but when he lied to me about doing the sport i asked him about I was kind of taken back because I want honesty.

[unacceptable62]

Is this an online relationship or have you met him in real life? Just curious.

[Lucky555]

my ex was not an online relationship we met at work and things progressed and ect.

[unacceptable62]

Maybe he didn't commit because he realized that you see the negative in a lot of things (see the other thread). That is a very big turnoff to know that if you don't respond to a text message, your girlfriend will get herself really upset.

[Lucky555]

Maybe he didn't commit because he realized that you see the negative in a lot of things (see the other thread). That is a very big turnoff to know that if you don't respond to a text message, your girlfriend will get herself really upset.

 

I guess i thought if a guy really like you he would be in contact a lot. Like pursuing. This is how its always been done with past guys.

 

So the ex. I think i will keep it casual, dont read too much into anything since the previous times he couldn't commit he actually told me it was because of his ex. awhile back ect. Im not dealing with it.

 

I'll just go with the flow i suppose. I'm just very cautious now.