lilmrcheerful Posted January 30, 2009 Posted January 30, 2009 I was thinking. Could another form of NC be whereby you never contact your ex but if they contact you, then you respond, keeping it simple and brief, to the point and formal without any emotion, letting them always be the last one to finish the conversation if by text, and always the first to initiate it? Could that be seen as NC because in theory you're not contacting them and you're making them do all the hard work so that effect, wouldn't that be seen to them that you really don't care less anymore because with NC whatsoever they are always going to be left wondering anyway?
sultry33 Posted January 30, 2009 Posted January 30, 2009 hi nc is just that....no contact what you suggest has been on here before called nfc.. ie no 1st contact or lc low contact i think nc is hard but neccesary to complete move on
Geishawhelk Posted January 30, 2009 Posted January 30, 2009 Exactly. Any break in contact is not 'no contact'. It means you are back conversing with them, and have to start from square one all over again. NC does exactly what it says on the packet. If you've received something, then understand this: The fact that she has texted/messaged/e-mailed you is of absolutely no consequence at all. She's trying to break NC and you have to prevent that at all costs. Read all the posts from people who have permitted their dumper-exs to get through to them. The regret and anguish is palpable. NEVER respond, reply react or get pulled in. leave trhem dangling and do not succumb to the temptation of replying. Even "I'm sorry, I'm in No contact. Please do not talk to me ever again" is breaking NC!
BikerBeagle Posted January 30, 2009 Posted January 30, 2009 My question back to you is ...what would be the point? What you are opening yourself up to is a situation where the ex says, "jump", and you respond with, "ok, but I'm only jumping as high as I want to". Big whoo! ...you are still jumping.
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